chozengrlc

How do you get over it when the one you devoted your life and love to betrays you? You are left with a feeling of shock and pain. I feel completely naieve and stupid for ever trusting someone with my heart. Can anyone be trusted ever? Does the pain ever go away? Is it better to have the person gone? Do you heal faster with them not around? It has been over a year since my husband came out with his long list confession of all the lies and deceit he has done during our marriage because he needed to get it off his chest. Now im left with this terrible aftermath that daily plagues me. It feels like everything is a constant reminder of the lies. He refuses to leave or let me go. He acts like the world is perfect when i put my happy face on for the day as long as he is oblivious to my pain. The days I feel like I cant hold it in any longer he acts like it is a complete shock the way I feel. I try to continue on for my childrens sake and my family's sake with that smile that everything is wonderful but at night I feel completely alone and trapped. I feel so weak and my life is at a standstill. What now? I need advice please. Someone who has been in this situation and knows the pain when the person you were honest and loving to one day turns into this person you never knew and you are stuck trying to live with whats left.

preso

I am sorry for your pain.
Here is the thing, its a mistake to devote your life to a spouse. You should devote your life to God... and the rest will follow as people will surley let you down.
I learned this growing up and watching people, the neighbors, my friends parents, etc.........
You should NEVER devote your life to anyone but your heavenly father. All else comes below that.
After your heavenly father, you should devote your life to You and being the best person you can be... spouses come after that. Your devotion system is messed up, you need to re-calibrate it to one that works for you, not against you.