Re: I AM DESPERATE, I don't know what to do!
im 29 and he is 31 . we both gained a lot of weight after we got married and had the kids and we met, had our first child and got married within less than a year. he has lost almost all his weight and i'm still struggling to lose mine, because i'm with my kids all the time especially my son who is special needs and cant walk, talk, feed himself, etc. he had tried to help me in the past with giving me advice about diet, exercise, because he is in the process of becoming a mma coach as well and hes on his way to becoming a pro fighter. he says that i am mad because he had bettered his life and lost the weight and that i haven't. he says that i need to better my life and be happy with himself or i can never be happy with him. he has tried to encourage me to go out with friends and family but it isn't as easy for me as with him, because my son is on a strict ketogenic eating schedule and my husband has no clue how to feed him. my mil says that she went through something similar with her husband and that the ask nothing approach worked for her, and that she wants us to work it out and that if i need a babysitter so i can go out with friends that she will do it. and as far as going out the only time i go out on a date is if i nag him. he goes to atlantic city and other far places for fights but for me to hitch a ride with him to a park where hes going to go for a run anyways is an inconvenience. he says that the girls that he talks to dont even live around here so what does it mattter if its just talk. i asked him if i did the same wouldnt it bother him and he said no because he trusts me. im getting conflicting advice from family and friends and i feel that its my fault because ive let myslelf go and im not that sexpot that would do it with him several times a day everyday before we had kids. And hes always critiquing that he thinks im faking orgasms because i dont have them the way other girls have.