I have been married to my husband for 22 1/2 year. Before everyone jumps all over me, when my husband and I got married, his kids were not really a part of our life. His ex has full custody and she did everything possible to prevent him from seeing them or having anything to do with them (4 girls). We tried for 2 years to fight for his visitation to the point of bankruptcy but to no avail. So we moved on with our lives. And we had a good life. Then his ex moved back into the state and brought back 4 messed up kids who were angry, disrespectful and did everything they could to let him know they hated me and didn't want us together. Now they are all adults and I literally hate them. I don't want anything to do with them and last October my husband and I actually got to the point where we were ending our marriage and in December I filed for divorce. After the new year my husband convinced me that he truly loved me and wanted us to stay together, that we were much better together than apart and that we had come to far and gone through too much to throw it all away. I agree to give it another chance, but I would not stay in a marriage that included his children in it. I wanted no part of a life with them. They are mean, ugly (and I don't mean their looks) nasty, disrespectful, snotty, trashy, unclassy people, and I don't want that kind of people in my life. He is torn but I told him I loved him and I would understand if he wanted to choose them, and I wouldn't have any hard feelings. The problem is that I cannot get over all that has happened over the last 25 years and I will not be made to feel guilty about it. My husbands mother and his sisters all feel that is a package deal (I HATE THAT TERM!!!). No it is not. I know that life is not black and white and nothing is that simple. Sometimes things need to be worked out for the best interest of the people involved. We love each other and make each other incredibly happy when we are together. He is my soulmate and my best friend. Our children are grown and don't cause anywhere near this kind of drama between us. I have read a lot of other people's stories online about the same thing and just need to vent. Filing for divorce and feeling that I would be spending the rest of my life without this man that I love so much was heartbreaking. But I was willing to go through it all just to end all this drama and have some peace in my life. I need to have a peaceful life now, I am starting to have medical issues (high blood pressure, stress,migraines) and it is all because of these people and the hell that they cause). I know people will say I am being selfish, and maybe to a degree I am, but there are people all the time that have to choose who they will allow in their lives, and who they will not. My husbands ex filled these kids heads with all kinds of BS about him, me and our kids, and they have never been able to love him, or have a real relationship with us. They used to come over and tell him they were there to spend time with his wallet. It was all just so crazy. His guilt over the divorce never let him discipline them, and they ran all over him. I don't want to end our marriage, but I wont live like this anymore. This post may be all over the place, but it's hard to type this through all the tears. Thanks for the support.