12-28-2011, 07:02 PM
Join Date: Oct 2011
| | Re: Is online sex chat cheating?
Originally Posted by demora
Sex chat is cheating, yes, and it hurts. I think it's almost worst then just going and having sex with someone because it's emotional online. I have been a similar situation with my husband, before we were married. I felt very betrayed. He changed his email address and got rid of the ID he used with this woman and all of his profiles say that he is married.
He still chats with a lot of different people - men and women. I have to trust that he's not going to cross that boundary again. I know he loves me and I know that he doesn't like to see me hurting.
I think it's something you have to decide for yourself. It sounds like he's doing everything he can to show you that he's serious about your marriage. Sometimes, as people we don't always think through the consequences of what we do. And many people, especially men, don't see online as "cheating". I think more then cheating, it's a betrayal. One that has ended many marriages since the internet age came into being.
I guess that my advice is to figure out how you feel about it. Can you forgive him? Are you willing to work to save the marriage as well? He can't do it on his own. Forgiving is the easy part, the trusting again is the hard part. It takes a lot of time and patience on both sides.
Best wishes to you.
Seriously need a LIKE button in these forums... Well said, very well said.