tripleaxle2833

As you might notice from another post of mine, I do not have the most perfect marriage! BUT, in the process of doing some soul searching, I wanted to ask some opinions.

How often do you and your significant other (parents) have a date night? Will your wife or husband insist on leaving the children with a nanny or sitter at every chance they get? Don’t get me wrong, we normally have a scheduled date night once a week. However, we were moving last week and my husband wanted to leave our kids with the nanny IN A NEW HOUSE while the movers were still unloading – so we could go out to dinner and get margaritas. I didn’t agree with that and it didn’t happen, but I thought that was odd behavior for a parent. Maybe I am wrong? Please tell me honestly!

Also, every marriage has rough patches, but how common is it for your significant other to try to “turn you on” and then suggest you go masturbate? My DH started telling me to go put on something sexy and to do that! This…even though..he doesn’t really initiate intercourse.

I am just trying to ask the questions I can’t ask the people I know! Please be honest! Thanks!

JDPreacher

My wife and I go out at least once a week...and we try and go do something with the kids every couple of weeks. Just depends on everyone's schedules with all the sports and other things that the kids have going on. It will probably change once the baby is here but for now...we make sure there is time for us and time for the kids.

As for the put on something sexy and masturbate...sounds like a fantasy of his, to see you pleasure yourself. So let him watch and see what happens from there...mutual masturbation or even watching each other masturbate can be quite the experience.

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swedish

We have a scheduled date night once a week. Since this is my second marriage and my kids see their dad every other weekend, we also are able to plan things on our 'alone' weekends.

The middle of a move would be way too unsettling for me to go out for dinner and drinks, especially w/o the kids...so I agree with you there.

Don't know about your second question. My h has never suggested it. If he did, I'd probably ask him.

QuitaBee

Sounds like he just wants some more spice from you. Nothing wrong with him wanting to have alot of alone time with you (atleast he isnt craving alone time with someone else). Margaritas in the midst of a move probably isnt a good idea. But find some middle ground, you couldve compromised to go out the next night when things were a little more settled in. Him watching you pleasure yourself is a very common fantasy of many men and some women too. He sounds like he just wants some more spice in the marriage. Switch some things up, sex can get routine. Monogamy is not BS, but the same boring thing every encounter while the kids are gone or sleep is!!

aurorazz

I think you and your husband just have a different comfort level. For him he sees no problem in leaving the kids in the new home. Why pass up the chance for a date night because of the fuss?

That say I won't do it though. To make sure everyone is settle in definitely have a higher priority than a date night.

Good for you to have a weekly date night.

preso

My husband wants to go out several times a week, but due to his work, we can only do it 2x a week....
it's not about sex, its about enjoying each others company, new places to eat and explore the city we live in which is growing by leaps and bounds with all kinds of new places springing up like mad.

nightshade

We don't have scheduled date nights. We're happy sending time together at home. Just curling up on the sofa with a DVD and pizza. We do go out on occasion, if there's a band in town we want to see or something.