04-19-2013, 02:23 AM
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Southern california
| | Re: Help!!!
1st thing to do---is make sure you get to the bank immediately---and do what ever you have to do, to make sure any money coming in from your H---goes proportionately to you and the kids----you might need to go to an atty, and get a court order---but do it immediately----the money your H---brings in, unless you agree to a legal separation---belongs to you and the kids, and your H---and make sure he knows that fact----other thing to do---is call his workplace, and get a hold placed on his checks---to make sure you get what is rightfully yours----anything he placed in the acct---he set up---put a legal hold on it.
If he leaves the country---and quits his job---you got a problem ---IN RE:---support, and alimony---so you do need to see an atty, immediately---to find out your rights
Focus on those things immediately---also cancel any CC's that your H---has---he could run up huge CC bills---and destroy whatever marital finances there are
Do not take the CC thing lightly----if not stopped by cancellation of the cards---he could eat away all your finances quickly---If his name is on the card---or its a joint card---CANCEL IT
Beyond that---take your time, and figure out what YOU WANNA DO, about all of this---but no matter what---do not beg or grovel to your H---and do not use your kids as a reason to beg or grovel----stand up on your own 2 feet, if its over---then its over---and you need to move on.