My husband and I have been together for 21 years, married for 14, we have 2 kids-15 year old girl and 9 year old boy. I found out 2 summers ago my husband had an affair with a younger girl in Columbia. Once i confronted him with what I knew, he was very sorry, saying that it was over. Unfortunately, he was lying...fast forward to appx 2 weeks ago, he met with her in Mexico (while working) and did what ever a cheater does. He then, 2 weeks later sent me a letter telling me everything. Since then, the thought of being with him emotional or sexually disgusts me. He has talked about seperation, which I am open to. My only concern is our kids. I want to protect them as much as possible. He wants to tell them the nigh before he leaves. I don't agree. What is an approximate time? Also, just found out the he has opened a bank accounting is name only and has set up POST box....now it's serious!!! I need top rote t my kids.....any advice???? Help!