General Relationship DiscussionAlthough anyone can post anywhere on Talk About Marriage, this section is for people interested in general relationship and marriage advice.
The problem might not be in your drive of a teenager but in your body of a sixty year old.
First off, men (in general terms) have a huge drop in libido in the older years and or might need some help from a little blue pill.
Second, if you did have the body of a teenager to match the sex drive, then there would probably be no issue to speak of.
You see, us men are visual and need to be pleased visually to elicit a physical response.
No matter how old or nasty the man is, that has no barring on who he wants or finds attractive.
Try porno so that he might have something to get excited about and then you can benefit from that excitement or try
"the little blue pill"
also, have you tried a BJ to get the mood right, or are you one of those women that doesn't like that?
If the Wife or supposed partner is unwilling to do the deed, and there is no good reason for her not taking care of business then a man should get his needs met elsewhere by someone that knows what a man need and is willing to give it to him, without all the head aches of having to jump through hoops for nothing.
Even if it costs money to get it. There are women out there that will fill this need without all the BS.
The problem might not be in your drive of a teenager but in your body of a sixty year old.
First off, men (in general terms) have a huge drop in libido in the older years and or might need some help from a little blue pill.
Second, if you did have the body of a teenager to match the sex drive, then there would probably be no issue to speak of.
You see, us men are visual and need to be pleased visually to elicit a physical response.
No matter how old or nasty the man is, that has no barring on who he wants or finds attractive.
Try porno so that he might have something to get excited about and then you can benefit from that excitement or try
"the little blue pill"
also, have you tried a BJ to get the mood right, or are you one of those women that doesn't like that?
Good luck...
do not turn to porn..... it will only enhance your sex drive!! (and we know you do not need that*)
and make the issue much more complicated
hate to say it but if you love your wife .. and she is not at your sexual level, i am afraid you may just have to take a few cold showers :-))
Well, there's a disconnect again...He wants it more; she less, regardless of age.
I think compromise might be a good idea. No sex is not the answer, going elsewhere is not the answer, checking our porn is not the answer either. How about asking her to meet you half way? And there is alot of different ways to have sex.
Is there a reason she doesn't want to be intimate? Just no desire? Well, maybe she needs to see her Dr. too, to rule our anything physical, hormonal, etc. If you're still great partners and emotionally intimate, then I would think she will want to do whatever to help the sexual side of your marriage too.
So the solution to not being satisfied sexually in the marriage is to accept not having sex?
Am I missing something?
I think what you are "missing" is the logical reasoning behind that statement, because there is no "logic" to it.
Women would "LOVE" it if us men just sit back and take the sexlessness because that way they can keep using the sex as a weapon thing, that they have used since the dawn of time, I'm sure.
If we (men) got "it" elsewhere why would we put up with half their isht, right.
I think what you are "missing" is the logical reasoning behind that statement, because there is no "logic" to it.
Women would "LOVE" it if us men just sit back and take the sexlessness because that way they can keep using the sex as a weapon thing, that they have used since the dawn of time, I'm sure.
If we (men) got "it" elsewhere why would we put up with half their isht, right.
Hmm. You seem to have a very enlightened view of women.
I wish, but I have enough of a problem trying to understand my own Wife, let alone ever claim to have but a pedestrian grasp of all the complications and contradictions that is woman.
I am forever learning though, much thanks to the enlightenment of forum members.
It's amazing how many people have similar issues and how they choose to deal with them and their ultimate consequences.
I too, will document the results of my social experiment that I am trying out in my relationship and chronicle what happened to me as a result, positive or negative, hopefully someone else can learn from my example and maybe be motivated to take action in their own lives.
mrmrder - Have you talked to her at all about this? Maybe try counseling?
carmaenforcer - what I see happening is STD's and Divorce court. Just do your wife a favor - if you decide to go to a "Professional" (and I use that term loosely) - don't ever have sex with her again. She doesn't need the risk of contracting something from you.
mrmrder - Have you talked to her at all about this? Maybe try counseling?
carmaenforcer - what I see happening is STD's and Divorce court. Just do your wife a favor - if you decide to go to a "Professional" (and I use that term loosely) - don't ever have sex with her again. She doesn't need the risk of contracting something from you.
from what i have read she aint giving so she is safe
Hmm. You seem to have a very enlightened view of women.
He was responding to what I wrote.
maybe you can clue me in, just what was I missing?
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Originally Posted by michzz
So the solution to not being satisfied sexually in the marriage is to accept not having sex?
Am I missing something?
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Originally Posted by carmaenforcer
I think what you are "missing" is the logical reasoning behind that statement, because there is no "logic" to it.
Women would "LOVE" it if us men just sit back and take the sexlessness because that way they can keep using the sex as a weapon thing, that they have used since the dawn of time, I'm sure.
If we (men) got "it" elsewhere why would we put up with half their isht, right.
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