Re: My husband told me he's not happy- please help!
So- an update, because I don't don't know what else to do!
My husband has told me that in addition to not being happy anymore, he is "emotionally involved" with another woman. I know who the woman is and considered her a friend. (BTW- my husband is technically this woman's boss, they work together) He says he feels a connection to her that he has never felt before and can read her emotionally, and he can't do that to me. This woman feels the same towards my hubby and is divorcing her husband (I just found this out). He spoke of several events in our lives where I may not have been happy, or had sacrificed my happiness for his (In my opinion, anyway). I think he basically is trying to get me to be the bad guy. I told him that until he is happy with himself, we can't determine how our marriage will be affected. I am trying to get him to talk to somebody, on his own, as I am. If we are both happy with ourselves an our marriage is still not working, that's the time to look at the next steps.
He is now sleeping in another bedroom, and got mad when I didn't want to continue discussing things for a while ( I tried to tell him that I needed some time to process things).
any advice, opinions? how do I get him to seek help for himself? Is my marriage really over? I don't want it to be...