09-21-2009, 04:57 PM
Join Date: Sep 2009
| | In a tough place.
I have been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years. In those 2 years we have gone through alot of issues dealing with trust, honesty, and values and morals that we hold being believers of God have battle against. I don't want to write a novel so I will make it short and simple.
It turns out that last weekend, She wanted to take a "break" to figure out and clear her head, She found out I was "flirting" with girl, Via online. Well It turns that out that a week ago she also met a girl who she found interest in, And has kissed her and now has gain feelings for her. Normally I think any guy would be ok with this, But me being a person of faith, I do not judge it but I'm against it, and I never have been in a "open homosexuality relationships (obviously). Well after i find that out, It turns out that pretty much everything I know about her was semi-false. It sounds a bit silly online, But She told me she voted for McCain, when in fact she voted for Obama, She now claims that she is ok with homosexuality, and she see no issue with that. Well she wants to restart and rebuild a relationship with me, But she is saying "this is how she is and feels about things", In where she doesn't want to be a lesbian but she find some girls attractive, and she wouldn't cheat on me,(again) But then again I would never thought she liked girls, because she never told me. Here is my issue, I was never told about this for 2 years, and I fell in love with her, I know alot of her mind process may because she is now jaded towards me and the trust that has been broken between the both of us, Now that I discover more lies.
My questions is, I'm in a place where I do lover her, And I saw marriage with her, But now that I know how she feels about certain things, It almost comes down to "It's her or my belief and the morals I chose to live by" This would of been so much easier if I would known this earlier on in the relationship but, 2 years down the road it makes it hard. Do i forgive her (Which I have) and move on and hope for the best? Or put the brakes and move on and find someone who shares the same values i do. In my heart I know she wants to marry me also, But I finally know her thoughts now and it freaks me out, because it sounds like a very dangerous place for a believer.
Edit: I'm asking if I should re-try a relationship with her, That would run the course of marriage, Or move on?"
So much for short story. Thanks in advance
Last edited by TheFelix; 09-21-2009 at 05:25 PM.
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