09-23-2009, 11:50 PM
Join Date: Mar 2009
| | I didnt deserve this.....I think?
My wife broke my heart the other night. Let me give a little background first. We have been married almost five years. As with almost every relationship we also have had our ups and downs. We have two wonderful girls, ages one and two. I do realize I am very out numbered in this family.
I will admit it is pretty hectic around our house most of the time. I work and my wife is a SAHM. I am not the most romantic person in this world. But I do like to make my wife feel appriciated when I can. I noticed lately she has been on edge with the kids and with me. Words and actions say alot. I figured the stress of raising two kids so close in age was getting to her. To be honest I really do not know how she does it. I have watched the kids by myself and they will almost drive you to insanity. But they are a whole lot of fun. My wife hardly has any time to herself, and when she does, she usually is on the internet talking to her friends, or relaxing in front of the TV.
The other night I wanted to do something special for her. I wanted her to relax and not have to worry about a thing. I decided to run her a bath. I went as far as lighting candles and picking up chocolate covered strawberries. I really wanted her to enjoy her night. I escorted her into the bathroom and she was very suprised. I told her to enjoy herself, take as much time as she needed. Her response to that took me off guard. She said: Thanks, but I really wanted to play my computer game. It hurt me to hear her say that. I then told her if she wanted to play her game than go ahead. She felt guilty and took a bath anyways.
I try to make her feel special, and this is what I get. Am I overreacting to the whole situation? Or should I just let it go? Is there anything I should have done diffrently? Any input would be great.