pollyanne

In a nutshell- been married 20years, good lifestyle,2 teenagers-8 months ago husband had mid life crisis and drunken moment and invited couple back for swopping-i was irate! and my feelings to him have changed.(see my prv post) looking at the relatonship I now see that he is unemotional and far too reserved. I think if i had sex with another man in front of him he would offer him a cup of tea! just feel he is indifferent to me! Had chat last night and he says he does love me but is controlled emotionally and that i have also withdrawn from him (admit i have!). Do i waste the rest of my life with Mr cool! but have a nice standard of living or do i cause mayhem and upset the family but get the chance of someone who i feel could really love me. How i wish he could
swear his undying love and shed a tear if i left!!!!

Barrett

My dear friend ..
I can understand your situation. As you said you have a nice standard of living keeping that in view I suggest you to give him another chance to realize his mistake. If he still want to continue his way then you just leave him to his fate and you find another person who really loves you..

sisters359

Counseling, for sure. It doesn't have to be "either/or" yet, although the swapping incident would have been a deal breaker for me!!

pollyanne

Yep know what you mean i forget about the swopping bit for a bit then it regurgitates in my mind and i hate him for it!! Will try counselling but he thinks its all my problem anyway and things would be fine if i could just forget it! (If only!)