01-12-2010, 02:55 PM
Join Date: Jan 2010
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Hi there. I stumbled upon this site and I am hoping to get and give some advices. Sometimes it takes just another perspective from someone who is not involved into the situation, to help a person see a resolution.
I am divorced with children and now I want to get involved in a relationship. But I seam to have develop a fear of intimacy. Whenever someone gets close, I put on heavy barriers around me. I want them to get through, but my fear and hesitation eventually burns them out. Should I go after him, explain my fears and ask him to keep trying? He was definitely interested, but now he hesitates. Does his hesitation mean that I should go after him or that he is done with trying to get close to me. Will my trying make me look desperate? Will I have internal peace if I just watch him lose interest? Any advice?