10-08-2009, 02:07 PM
Join Date: Oct 2009
| | Is my husband lying about emotional affair?
Just looking for some opinions. While I was away on vacation my husband started talking about a new young female coworker non-stop. She then called our home one time and stated to my husband she was sorry she left the sheets a mess!! He said this was a joke. She called him one day when I was driving him to work and asked why he wasn't there yet and his reply was "My wife doesn't let me out"! which is by far not true. She cried on his shoulder about a married older man (my husband is older by 20 years than she) she was dating and thought she might be pregnant. I asked my husband to stop hanging around her so much as she appeared to be trouble and he volunteered to remove her direct connect # from his phone.
Well I let everything go and 6 months later I find a direct connect # with no name in his notebook of his phone which I borrowed since my phone was on the blink. I beep it and a female answers. When I get home I tell him what I found and he states "You'll just have to deal with it" and goes to bed. The next morning I ask him if perhaps our son might have used his phone or one of his friends. He says no and doesn't know who the # belongs to. We drive to the store and he tells me to go inside, he will be right in. Several minutes later he comes in and says he now knows who's # it is. Well, it happens to be the young female coworker and I ask why he didn't call the # in front of me. He says he doesn't know why and doesn't know how her # got there he just recognized her voice. I look at the phone bill and discover that when my husband was supposed to be in town helping his friend when I was away on business, the tower the phone connected to when I called was nowhere near where he was supposed to be but a tower 25 miles away in a town right near where she lives but he states he was nowhere near there. There are other little things but I don't want to go on and on.
Can anyone give me their opinions on this. He states she wasn't even a good friend of his and nothing ever happened? She still works there although in another building and it bothers me. Am I making a big deal about nothing?