You are coming across as really weak. This is not about being a - what did you call it - a "macho man". This is about setting a good example for your children as to what is a healthy marriage.
The worst thing you can do is ask her how you can make her happy. You have already been doing that, and you already do way, way more then your fair share in this marriage.
The picture you have painted so far is:
1. You make a very good living, she is not able to support herself very well.
2. She is very attractive, more so then you are so you feel lucky to have her. It is not lucky to love someone who does not love you.
Do you care enough about setting a good example for your children, to have conflict with your wife? Because she is going to try to intimidate you into not having this conversation.
Just ask her if she knows why she does not love you. Just ask. It is a simple question. And it is the right question. Because if she DOES love you, she will immediately try to fix all this, the affection, the kindness, the sex. If I am right, she won't do that. She married you for your support, which would be ok if she was able to love you for being a great provider. It is obvious that she is not.
If she knows WHY she does not love you, then maybe it is something you can address. If she cannot/will not tell you why she does not love you, then you have to decide if you want to be with someone who does not love you, and is very unhappy they are with you.
Originally Posted by marriedwithchildren View Post
Me and my wife have been married for 5 months now.
We used to cuddle and make love all the time. We used to talk about everything. We shared everything together.
She ignores me when I try to talk to her, she is no longer interested in sex, and when I try to kiss her or hug her she pushes me off of her. I try to cuddle with her and she pushes me off of her.
I don't understand it.We used to be so close. I am starting to think she doesnt want to be with me.
I know she cant be stressed, I own my own business, and she does not work or anything.
I cook, clean, everything, I dont ask her to do anything around the house, I spoil her. Yet I feel as if she hates me....
Please help, I love her very much and I dont want to leave her.