2brokenwingz

My H and I have been through many things over the past 7 years, we've always got through whatever it was. This past year, though, I made a mistake and I cheated on him, not once-but TWICE! I found comfort in the arms of another the first time, and didn't even want it to happen the second time but didn't know how to stop it. I feel dead inside for what I've done and want to prove myself to him, but I don't know where to start, what to say, or what to do.

foolz1

Cheating is not a mistake, but rather a choice, and a very foolish one, at that. You need to seek therapy first before you do anything else, to understand why you feel the need make these selfish and immature decisions. The counselor can also offer advice on how to work on your marriage.

Roundtable

I second that. My wife is deep in an EA and has no intention of stopping. At least you have seen the error of your ways. You need to hope you have not lost all trust and respect from hour husband. That is hard to regain. Seek professional help to deal with your issues, and maybe over time you can win him back.

Cherry

Having been cheated on, there was nothing my husband could say or do to make things right. Even though it's been three years since his PA, I still struggle with believing he won't do it again. This is something your H will have to come to terms with, and, him alone, determine whether he can accept what you've done to him and his family. There's no such thing as a mistake when it comes to cheating. You put yourself in a situation where you would find comfort with another man.

What you can do, if you want to try and save the marriage, if your H wants to too, is make every aspect of your life an open book to your husband. He deserves that. Good luck to you and your family. I hope that you two can make your marriage work and get past everything.