Re: Should married couples have secrets.
This is a great question, for it weeds out the truly honest from those just getting by.
Someone wrote that their Aunt had given them the advice, not to let your right hand know what the left is doing, this it truly sage advice for a long lasting relationship, till you are found to be a liar and never trusted again.
I am one of those truthful to a fault people and so am on the side of full disclosure. I however see the appeal and benefits of lying. Many an occasion could I have saved myself a tun of grief if I only were to have lied.
Sometimes I guess you just don't have a choice, I also am going to have to resort to lying soon in my relationship, when I cheat on my Wife for neglecting me sexually. I did warn her ahead of time that this would be a consequence of her not taking care of my needs and so I am half justified but I doubt this would matter much to her, so I will simply have to become a liar as well as a cheat, unfortunately. In for a penny in for a pound, right...
Can we say, slippery slope!!!