10-25-2009, 05:32 PM
Join Date: Oct 2009
| | Re: Is this being controlling?
Hmmm... I think it depends on the intent when asking.
If my husband asked where I was going I wouldn't think anything of it because I can come and go as I please, but if he asked and then criticized me or complained when I told him, I'd have a HUGE problem with it.
If she says "Shopping with Kelly" is that good enough for you or do you interrogate as to which stores and when she will be back?
If it's just a curiosity thing then, no big deal. If it's so you can keep tabs on her then, great big deal.
Does she have a cell phone? If you need her you can always call her. :-)
I would have a problem if my husband told me he'd be popping out to the store and was then gone for 3 hours. I think that's disrespectful. On the other hand, if he said he was going to Future Shop, I'd make alternate plans for dinner. :-)
Maybe you need to look at the situation at your house and ask yourself what your motivation is for asking. If it's innocent, then ask away. You're doing nothing wrong.