Husband unable to control anger; angry at young children too
We have been married for almost 10 years. Most of the time I feel we have a good and happy relationship, including intimacy and affection. In may ways, our children have brought us even closer together. However, every weekend he gets overwhelmed and frustrated byt he children. he often yells at them inappropriately, for minor reasons, or too harshly for their ages (all are under 6). Last night he took it out on me as well. the house was messy, which was somehow all my fault, because none of the stuff was "his"-- it was all the kids, toys, art projects, dishes, etc. Then he topped it off with "and you've let yourself go, terribly."
I'm so hurt that I'm speechless. I had 3 kids in 5 years, and am now finally able to go to the gym daily.
We didn't speak the rest of the night or this morning. I know he won't apologize.
I guess the bottom line is, I don't like how he deals with his anger and emotions. It's painful and hurtful to me, and really wears away at my love feelings for him.