10-27-2009, 03:05 PM
Join Date: Oct 2009
| | My wife told me she is unhappy with our marriage
My wife stated she is unhappy, I ask her what makes her unhappy,she states, she wants to move back to Philadelphia, she doesn't like New Jersey, I agree and then I ask; Why are you unhappy with me and why don't you love me anymore?
She won't give me an answer.
My business is basically on shutdown, I have been self employed for 15 years. WE have been married for 11-years, she is 51 and I am 52, this is our second marriage for each of us.
My son is on his own (26), her daughter is at school (20) and living with relatives in Delaware County, PA.
I am going crazy, unsure what to do. I haven't been able to find a job since last July when I closed my business and the burden of the mortgage has fallen on my wife, she earns enough income to pay the mortgage, food and utility bills, otherwise we are debt free.
All of her work/girlfriends are all in negative marriage situations and all of her single girlfriends are all negative about men. Her sister is a Twin and never married and only in three short relationships in the 11-years that I have know her.
My wife recently has begun getting braces on her teeth, starting working out every morning (hasn't done this in 11 years), has never cooked me dinner or went food shopping, I have done all that , this week she has decided to cook me dinner two days in a row.
I am confused and shattered by this. I am very warm, sensual and sexual and she has resisted all contact with me for the last three weeks.
I work hard at another business that doesn't bring in much in income at this time, but its growing. My best friend believes she is now at the point where she wants to be on her own and not cater to anyone, but she never catered to me, I did everything but clean the house.
My friend says to let her go her own way and don't fight it.