10-28-2009, 03:48 PM
Join Date: Aug 2009
| | Re: I need some insight
A marriage is built on trust - for both parties involved. With that said, If you have not set a date for the wedding, I would wait a bit or if you have and are not commited to the date yet, push it back a bit.
I can gaurantee you that if you are already starting out this way, it'll get worse. What you are going through is usually something that happens to a married couple after one of the spouses has already cheated. I would say that your fiance is seriously possessive and immature. He needs to grow up.
Sorry, but my take on this situation is that you should give it a little more time. I don't know how long you have both been together/living together but it sounds to me like you should not have to be putting up with being smothered.
Part of the survival of a marriage in my opinion is some form of independance for each spouse so that you have the room to grow and learn new things. If trust is not present, then the marriage will not survive - one of you will be miserable.
Also, and I will be blunt here, marriage is very difficult and requires some sacrifice, so in other words IT WILL GET TOUGHER! I am not trying to scare you away from it, I am only letting you know that it's difficult enough starting out with a clean slate so can you imagine starting out with one strike against you already. He needs to give you space; what he is doing is projecting a sense of distrust for you - Not a good start!