Time heals...I wish the gift of time for you.

Veronica Jackson · 11-02-2009, 11:58 PM

It's been 5 months since that horrible day my H told me he didn't love me anymore. Since then, it has been a crazy ride. The anger and the hurt were almost unbearable. I am recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship. My H was a passive aggressive man. I remember the day when I mustered up the strength one day to even talk without crying, I told him what I thought. He called me crazy. I withdrew back into my shell and regretted even saying anything. Living with someone who belittled me constantly was devastating. I look back at that time and pat myself on the back for standing up for myself even for a brief moment by calling him on what he is.

Its been one month since I've been living on my own. At first I thought it would be scary but now I won't have it any other way.

Today, I can honestly say that I can smile and mean it. No longer do I have to live with the sarcasm, the withholding of sex, the cutting remarks or the silent treatment.

Today, I no longer go to bed crying and wondering what I did wrong.

Today, I feel beautiful and free and will never let anyone make me feel despair or lost again.

I wish the gift of time for those who are going through the worst pain anyone can ever endure. Hang in there because time truly does heal the wound that makes us most vulnerable and scared.

<3

Ladybug30 · 11-04-2009, 11:06 AM

It's great that you're doing so well. I went though a similar situation a few years ago. It was one of the hardest times of my life, but I'm so much stronger for having gone though it. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself and not putting up with the abuse any longer. Stay strong!!

Corpuswife · 11-05-2009, 11:09 AM

I'm glad for you V...you sound free as well.

It's good that you posted for those that are going through similiar circumstances. Thank you!

preso · 11-05-2009, 11:13 AM

It's not time that heals all wounds, its acceptance that heals....
It seems you have come to accept the situation.
I feel for you as I know someone well who is passive agressive, a man and after knowing him a long time, had to push him out of my life as I felt he was toxic ( not my husband, or old boyfriend, just someone I've known a long time).
It seems you have just come to accept how he is and know you cannot change him, only your response to him...
and you've saved yourself.

swedish · 11-05-2009, 01:34 PM

What a nice post, Veronica. I'm glad to hear you are moving forward.

blondegirl · 11-05-2009, 02:23 PM

Thanks for ur words. I'm going through a hard time right now, so I hope I can get through it, and be happy soon too.