Could I make a gentle request? Help my eyes by using paragraphs
Your main problem is that you have been too nice, and a door mat to boot. If there is one thing that really turns off a woman, it's having a man that walks on egg shels and does what he's told.
Here's a new word for you: NO. Use it often.
If you read this article I wrote, the light bulb may come on: Sexless Marriage?
However, you are already on the right track. you just need encouragement. Repeat after me. no more Mr. nice guy.
But understand this. When you spoil a kid and then realise the error of it and stop spoiling that kid, for the first few weeks that kid will scream the house down.
So it will be with your wife. If you start saying no, and start going to your card game, she will throw a tantrum. Be a man and ignore it.
Originally Posted by hopefulinok
her mom told me one of her regrets was that she never showed any emotion with her husband in front of my wife and she thinks that is because her parents never kissed or hugged in front of her.
Spot on... and history is repeating right in front of your nose. But if you put in place more firmness, the intimacy will get better.