11-12-2009, 10:33 AM
Join Date: Nov 2009
| | Where has the Desire gone?????!!!!!!!!
Ok, a brief rundown of my relationship. Her and I have been married for just over 4 years. We have 1 child together and a child from her previous marriage. She tells me all the time that she still loves me but doesnt "like" me. What does that mean? I can definitely see the difference in our marriage, shes not affectionate, emotionally or physically. I try to initiate sexual contact but get rejected. I compliment her but she rolls her eyes. I flirt with her, but she blows me off. She has no desire to be in the same room with me. Her personality and attitude has done an absolute 360 degree turn since she became friends with some of her co-workers. Her co workers are married, so I cant imagine HOW that affected it, but I do know her demeaner towards me and the whole "marriage" is negative. She says that she dont like my personality, says that im always rude to people. When in reality, Im not intentionally rude, my personality is that I dont converse with strangers, i dont converse very well with friends. I am a very quiet laid back person. Ive tried to fix that for her, but it lasts for a few weeks then im back to the usual me. What I dont understand, is that I had the exact same personality when her and I were dating, I havent changed at all. She knew that when we got married, why all the sudden does she despise it? I just feel as if the only reason that her and I are married is for the sake of the kids. Which, belive u me I want the kids to be taken care of and be as happy as I was as a kid. But on the same token, I am to the point that I dont want to live in this environment much longer. Has anyone had this similar problem? Any women reading that can share feelings would be great! I just want to save my marriage, and at this point Im the only one working to save it.
Last edited by softball; 11-12-2009 at 10:35 AM.