ticklish

i've been with my oh for almost 15 years now and over the past few months i've started thinking negatively about our relationship. i'm becoming irritated by the way he talks and it's not like he's changed the way he communicates. his behaviours have started to get on my nerves and it's not like he's doing anything new. i'm less interested in him sexually and of late it's felt like a duty rather than a pleasure or something to look forward to. i find myself daydreaming about being single and have even talked about it with a male friend who has similar thoughts. i feel guilty that i've talked about it with another person but at the same time it's a release. my oh hasn't done anything wrong that i could put my finger in, it seems to be me who's changing. i wonder is this a rut or is it something more? is it normal to have these feelings? how do i get over it?

Corpuswife

Yes it's normal. I felt the same way years ago.

Looking back, I should have gathered more outside interests for myself. Got away on a girls vacation or traveled and done things on my own. I should have encouraged my H to do the same.

In that way, we would have come home and brought new ideas/adventures to the table. It would have given us space or a break to appreciate each other more.

The day to day grind with the same person is just that.....the same. The annoying behaviors only change with your own perception. It's how you feel that day or what you are willing to tolerate.

I've been there.....

ticklish

Thanks so much for your reply, it helped to see i'm not alone in this. Finding my own interests, going away with the girls etc i like those ideas and will definitely make it a new year's resolution.