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Old 12-10-2009, 02:40 PM   #1 (permalink)
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When my wife goes out, she usually only takes 20 pounds out with her, and she goes out with her friends (most of which are married, and all female), now, I dont mind her going out one little bit.

The problem is she comes back home and her wedding rings are in her purse, she says she takes them off as she gets more free drinks from men this way. Is this normal? Whenever Im out, mine always stays on. She always has her wedding ring on when shes at home, or we go into town, am I being stupid?

I dont mind if men are stupid enough to buy a married woman drinks, but with her wedding ring off, she obviously wants to be seen as single.
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You're right.

And she is correct that she can get free drinks this way. But not having the rings on would bother me too.

However - ring or not, that won't stop some guy from hitting on her.
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Old 12-10-2009, 03:05 PM   #3 (permalink)
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There is no way to know if you have a real problem until you tell her "I am not comfortable with it, please stop."

If she stops, it was nothing.

BTW, the sings are good. Women are usually very good liars. She would have remembered to put the rings back on if she was trying to deceive you. Drinks are expensive. Also, many happily married women feel very flattered when men show an interest in them. This is the equivalent of men "checking out other women" and it can be fairly harmless. Insensitive, but harmless.
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You're right.

And she is correct that she can get free drinks this way. But not having the rings on would bother me too.

However - ring or not, that won't stop some guy from hitting on her.
I dont mind guys buying her drinks, or hitting on her, shes a gorgeous woman, and I know she wouldnt cheat on me, it just bugs me that she would go to this extreme way of getting free drinks. I have tried discussing it with her, but then Im accused of not trusting her and throwing accusations at her. We barely have sex anymore as due to past operations on her tummy and bowel, it hurts her too much. But we tickle and cuddle each other in bed before we sleep. Its only when shes out drinking with her mates that she takes her rings off.
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There is no way to know if you have a real problem until you tell her "I am not comfortable with it, please stop."

If she stops, it was nothing.

BTW, the sings are good. Women are usually very good liars. She would have remembered to put the rings back on if she was trying to deceive you. Drinks are expensive. Also, many happily married women feel very flattered when men show an interest in them. This is the equivalent of men "checking out other women" and it can be fairly harmless. Insensitive, but harmless.


Oh she loves it when girls chat me up or show interest, and also gets quite jealous too lol. I have no doubt thats she been faithful, im just curious as to why she takes off her rings, none of her mates seem to do this.
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