Please give me advice, I am so upset by this situation. Here is some background:
- Been married 1.5 years
- Husband cheated on me before marriage
- Trust as always been an issue
DH meets new woman at work, very excited and they become fast friends. She starts texting him on the weekends, 'How is your day?', etc. DH & I discuss that I would like to become friends with her if they are getting this close. We go out w/ her and her 'bf' several times. She always complains to me that I need to dress my DH better, he needs nicer clothes, etc. We do not hit it off. Next month DH goes way over on text messaging charges. He has been texting her 3 times as much as me, and DELETiNG all the messages. DH & I have a heart to heart and he promises to not delete the messages, becuase I tell him even if it is nothing, it looks suspicious. Everything is fine. Now I find DH has installed a secret 'app' on his iphone to text her through. Messages late at night after we go out with her to a bar have been deleted.
He says I'm crazy and won't let him have female friends, so he hides the messages.
I say it is hard for me to trust him when he is deleting everything. If he has nothing to hide, why is he hiding?
Please help. This is driving me insane and I can't stop crying.
P.S. I don't think he is physcially cheating yet.