Re: The Love Dare Book - its now Day 3 ... (I am doing this - need help)
I thought I would let all of you know what happened last night.
I sent my wife a text and asked her to meet me for just a moment later that afternoon. She replied yes she would after work. She asked where would I like to meet. I replied "would you like to get some coffee? or a drink?". I knew she would choose coffee, but I wanted her to feel like what ever she chose was fine. She replied coffee and we met at Starbucks.
Earlier, after work, I went to Publix (our supermarket - very nice one) and bought two cards and red roses. The first was a fun, music card "Whomp there it is" that said "You did it" and inside I wrote congratulations to her for her exams and making the dean's list - not bad for a woman who is 36 and went back to school. In the other card I sat down and wrote what I felt, truthfully, in my heart. It took up the inside, both sides, and the back. Maybe some day I will post what I wrote here. I chose that particular card because when we dated, before being married in 2006, we would chat on Yahoo (back in the day) and we would always end with one of us typing "hugs" and the other would type "kisses". The outside of the card was cute, it was an octopus and said something about I'd hug you with all eight arms if I could but it would freak you out - on the inside it only had one word "hugs", just under it I wrote "and kisses".
When she arrived, I already had her favorite coffee. We sat, and I gave her the congrats card and she liked it - it was pretty cool. Then I told her the flowers were for her, of course she knew that, and gave her the other card with my letter. She read the letter. She will have to tell you how she felt when she read what I wrote to her. But I will say we then spent the next two hours talking to each other in a kind sincere, genuine, and I believe "caring loving way". We honestly and openly communicated what we thought, felt, feared and what was in our hearts. It was perhaps the the most meaningful time I have ever spent with her, except for holding her hands and taking our vows.
I have prayed this year many times that God would give us a fresh start, by completely erasing all the negatives of the past and allowing us to let of go of certain things, by giving us an opportunity to start over. Both of us believe that is what has happened in our life.
We have a lot to do, and mostly I have a lot of work. I have vowed in my life, and to her, to be a better man each day. You should know, the vows I give to her are and have been the most serious things I hold in my heart.
Well, I am sure I written far too much now, and I would like to have some coffee and read Love Dare to learn my lesson for today and when my daughter finally decides to rise and shine to play Santa before she is offer to see her grandparents this afternoon.
God bless you all for being here.