When Your Husband Falls Out Of Love For You
Where do I start? I'm balling my eyes out just typing this and asking God to please take the pain away. I've been truely in love to a man for 22 years. He has had 5 affairs. I feel like I've failed our marriage. I feel like if I was white woman that our marriage probably would have survived. I feel my self esteem going down the drain. I've always been a faithful loving wife. Through the years we have grown to be compatible with each other. We try to go to church every Sunday.
I was trying to hopefully rebuild our marriage. I have not been able to sleep for 2 nights. As you can read from my husband's ad below that he wants a separation from me. How did I find the ad? I just had a gut feeling and looked in the singles ad last Wednesday. I confronted him that same day. He said that he fell out of love and could not get his love back. That our 22 year marriage was a good memory and that marriages donít always last. He said that I am an outstanding woman that any man would be proud to have as a wife. That this separation is completely his fault, not mine. Iíve asked him to at least respect me and to wait to put the ads out until the divorce is final. He said he did not want to be lonely. He said that time is precious and that he had to see if there was a woman out there compatible for him. We got into a huge fight. I have been mentally exhausted trying to recover from this evil wrong doing. All I can do is pray to God to give me the strength to carry on. I'm having a love/hate emotion battling inside of me. He said he is not having an emotional affair. He is just looking for a friend. I said dating someone will only make the waters murky. He says he does not know what what the future will bring. He says he has to go through this journey in order to find out that if he can get his love back for me. We both have individual therapists. But his therapist told him not to date. But he said that he had to and to let me continue on this odd journey. He said that he put this kind of ad out so women can respond to it. I am so numb and confused.
HIS AD TO LOOK FOR A FRIEND:
Time to Live the Final Chapter
Okay, here goes the first step back into the dating world. Letís start at the present and work backwards a bit. Currently retired, separated and looking to meet new friends. The six week outpatient therapy program worked wonders and Iím ready to move on. Of course the therapy will continue for awhile to ensure things stay on track. Itís been a blessing in disguise. I am in control of my life now and it will go forward. Iím not looking for a rebound, rather a real person who wants to take things one day at a time and get to know each other. There is no hurry to move beyond that. For the next year, I will be rebuilding my life and would enjoy having someone to enjoy it with. I have the house (4/3) and dogs. Iím a non-smoker of cigarettes and a light drinker. I get several checks each month for disability and live quite well. It would be nice to meet a nice Caucasian woman, 5í5Ē and above, 120-140 and not high maintenance for a new and exciting friendship. Itís about going out camping, quading, live music, pickup trucks, football, some NASCAR, a cold beer on a hot day, a starbucks on a chilly morning, BBQ, Jacuzzi fun under a starlight evening with a nice fire and moreÖÖ
There you go, now you should contact me so we can at least have the chance to know each other. If you enjoy a man opening the door for you, letting you enter a room first, roses when least expected and basically being treated like a lady, thatís what I am about. If you have the curiosity to contact me, you will be pleasantly surprised. If not, I wish you all good luck in finding the right one.
1) I know in marriages, husband or wife fall out of love. What do you do then?
2) I feel the temptation to get even because I feel so lonely. I know God feels the void. But the temptation for acceptance by another man is so strong. I need your prayers.
3) For the single ladies, if you did not know my husband, would you answer his ad? If so, why? If not, why?
4) He wants to know if he is gone from me, if his love comes back? How can it if he is in the compan of another woman. He said it is just friendship. But we all know meeting someone new is like an addiction you can't refuse. I'm so confused.
Wife In Tears