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Newly Separated... Again!

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On December 6th. of 2009, my wife moved out. She had only told me that this was going to move out about four days earlier. This is the second time that she has moved out in two years. I've tried to be understanding and just roll with the punches, but it's always easier said than done.

Although she lives about 5 minutes up the road, it's like we are miles if not towns apart. She had mentioned to me that she does not want a divorce and that she only needs time so that she can "find herself." So here we are, amid this time of economic uncertainty, living in two separate homes.

She has asked me if she could spend the night with me once and that was it. She treats me as if we had only come into each other's lives about a week ago. I live in our home with my children from a previous marriage.

It gets more and more lonely everyday. I have no clue as to if she will return or not. She doesn't give me any answers to any of the questions that I've asked. She either shrugs her shoulders or just says that she doesn't know. I've asked her if she felt that moving out was the right thing to do, and her reply was, "I don't know." I'm lost, confused, and lonely. I have no idea where this so-called "relationship" is going... or if it is going anywhere. I'm afraid that by the time that I figure it out, time and opportunities for me to move on will have passed.

I know that no one here knows me, and only one side of the story is presented. I have spent time reading so many posts by others and I don't feel so alone anymore when it comes to my issues. In fact, there are so many who are going through almost an identical situation as I am.

One of the things that really get to me... is when a woman just wants to get up and leave, it's always justified. When a man does it, then more than likely, there must be another woman involved somewhere. It's my belief that it doesn't matter which sex just decides one day to just up and leave. If you don't see the downfall of your relationship on the horizon and "D" Day hits... the pain is still the same.
 
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Hello world... I am back. I needed to take a much needed rest from here and concentrate a little on myself and put some plans and thoughts together for my future.

I needed to focus a little more with the help of some positive thinking and believing in my abilities to carry on without my spouse.

The drama continues, but I am stronger and feeling at ease and have found a peace that has been within me... it's just that I have forgotten on how to call upon it.

I'll be posting again soon. Thanks everyone... and thank you Believe!
 
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