DS, this thread has given me such a sense of strength and I've learned so much.
I've decided to move on too and you're such an inspiration.
Thank you.
And good for you for holding your head high and weathering the storm.
Thank you so much for the compliment LHF. I am really happy that the words that I offer can give thought and strength. I too have learned so much from reading the posts of others. Surely, I value everyone who is within this community and their experiences.
I hold my head high and weather to storm because I wasn't given much of a choice and I am surely not going to show any signs of weakness. Thank you again.
That's all we have DS, is our integrity and values. If our spouses don't see it or care than there is nothing we can do. I will weather this storm with grace, humility and a sense of honor.
I will show my daughter what it is to be a good person and a better father. That's all I can do.
That's all we have DS, is our integrity and values. If our spouses don't see it or care than there is nothing we can do. I will weather this storm with grace, humility and a sense of honor.
I will show my daughter what it is to be a good person and a better father. That's all I can do.
I am not a religious man (but I am spiritual)... but AMEN on your post!!!
When you really think about, what else can we do? What other road do we have to travel on? If we are to press onward, be a positive role model for our children, find a way to live everyday the best that we can, and become an example for others... then this is the only path that we can take.
We all carry the pain of a broken marriage and family, but that doesn't mean that the sun will not shine for us ever again. Sometimes in life... a little rain must fall. There are so many others who depend on us, care about us, and love us. Losing the love of one should not be the reason to turn away the love of so many others.
My kids write me letters telling me how much they love me and how we will get through this together. How can I not listen to what they are telling me and want to keep moving forward? Why would I let them down? They are victims also.
Sometimes, we cannot see the bigger picture. Sometimes we are drowning in our sorrows so much that we forget how others are also feeling. The choice to move forward is not a choice that we've freely made. It was a choice that was made for us... handed to us by the ones who we loved most... our spouse.
Sometimes, we cannot see the bigger picture. Sometimes we are drowning in our sorrows so much that we forget how others are also feeling. The choice to move forward is not a choice that we've freely made. It was a choice that was made for us... handed to us by the ones who we loved most... our spouse.
I agree and I'm really having a hard time seeing the bigger picture DS. Hopefully I too will be able to quit drowning in sorrow and move forward.
It just feels like it will never happen at this point. Today I feel kind of like a car that is stuck in the mud and just spinning it's wheels.
The weather is warmer and you can surely get out now Notaclue. This is something that you are going to have to do. Being chained to her leg isn't going to do you much good right now. Whatever it is that she is going through... you have no other choice than to let her go through it.
It's a sad thing to have happen to any family, but you can't beat yourself up all day over it. You can't let it destroy you.
When you really think about, what else can we do? What other road do we have to travel on? If we are to press onward, be a positive role model for our children, find a way to live everyday the best that we can, and become an example for others... then this is the only path that we can take.
We all carry the pain of a broken marriage and family, but that doesn't mean that the sun will not shine for us ever again. Sometimes in life... a little rain must fall. There are so many others who depend on us, care about us, and love us. Losing the love of one should not be the reason to turn away the love of so many others.
My kids write me letters telling me how much they love me and how we will get through this together. How can I not listen to what they are telling me and want to keep moving forward? Why would I let them down? They are victims also.
Sometimes, we cannot see the bigger picture. Sometimes we are drowning in our sorrows so much that we forget how others are also feeling. The choice to move forward is not a choice that we've freely made. It was a choice that was made for us... handed to us by the ones who we loved most... our spouse.
I have to say this is probably one of the most motivational posts I have seen on here! Thanks! It's so hard to think not all men/women are going to walk out and leave.
I know others have said this quite a few times, but I wanted to say also that your words give hope and show that we can achieve life after this.
I have been separated for almost a year now and regardless of everything that has happened, that did happen in the marriage I was still holding out hope. For what? Is it even really something that I want? Or was it simply b/c I was scared that that relationship was all I would ever have?
Your words are so spot on when you say we can't always see the bigger picture. We can't, your right. Because maybe if I could/did see the bigger picture, maybe if you could or others on here, we would be very thankful for the pain we are going through now rather than an even worse disaster later, who's to know?
Thanks again for your words. And while it is still tough, there is always hope.
I know others have said this quite a few times, but I wanted to say also that your words give hope and show that we can achieve life after this.
I have been separated for almost a year now and regardless of everything that has happened, that did happen in the marriage I was still holding out hope. For what? Is it even really something that I want? Or was it simply b/c I was scared that that relationship was all I would ever have?
Your words are so spot on when you say we can't always see the bigger picture. We can't, your right. Because maybe if I could/did see the bigger picture, maybe if you could or others on here, we would be very thankful for the pain we are going through now rather than an even worse disaster later, who's to know?
Thanks again for your words. And while it is still tough, there is always hope.
Thank you so much Ash. I can't thank you and everyone else enough. I am truly humbled.
When my wife left me the first time, for whatever reason... it was like someone yanked my spine right out of my back. When she came back, we never really discussed things. I thought that we could move forward by moving from where we lived to a nicer neighborhood and home. All that did was mask the root of the problem (and I still do not even know what that is).
This last time my wife left, I was hurt and numb at the same time. After about two weeks of feeling like total crap and useless, I started seeing things in a different light. I haven't looked back since. So I am really happy when I can offer a perspective or viewpoint that can help others.
After all... that's what we are all here for isn't it? To find others who can relate and to share a word of encouragement. Hopefully make a friend or two along the way.
DS - how are things? Haven't heard from you in a while....
Things are okay... thank you. There are a large number of Haitians arriving here in my area, and I have been helping out with the evacuees. I'm telling you... the devastation is clearly on their faces. Makes you really think about how fortunate we have it and how we need to make the most out of everyday.
I will be making a trip to Haiti for about 2 days soon. Things are about to get interesting.
Good luck DS, hope everything is OK with you and your trip to Haiti. The devastation is just horrible and the suffering is beyond description. I'll be praying for you.
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