it is decent of him to be taking care of the financial side of things. But I completely understand you need your financial independence. Everyone does.
And I agree with FA about G...
sounds exciting but try not to get hooked in too quickly.
Wren it certainly sounds like 2010 is going to be your year and that you have turned the corner so to speak. Enjoy every moment, you certainly deserve all the happiness life has to offer. I am so happy for you.
Wren: Such a nice feeling to know that you are doing well. The changes in you since the holidays is night and day.
Have fun with G....being cautious is fine. Nothing wrong with taking things slow.
You will find a job. Things will fall into place, I can feel this for you.
J getting his stuff is good. Selling the house will relieve a burden financially and memory wise. I don't want mine either. I figure he can have the memories. OPen a closet, see a picture, open a drawer...memories everywhere. Good luck to them right?
Wren!! I have been out of the loop so I just read over the last few posts to get caught up and I must say you just put a big smile on my face!! I am so happy for you Wren I really am. I'm glad you got a car and I'm relieved that at least he came and got some of his stuff and I am thrilled that you have G as a friend to go out with once in awhile. Everybody has their ups and downs and you my friend are on the up and I'm proud of you. Just remeber throu good and bad you can do it!! And post here!! Esp if your dating life keeps up the way it is......
I am still dating G. It's tricky sometimes because we're both reeling from upcoming divorce. But we enjoy each other and have a great time. I've never dated a man before. Let me explain, ha! I have chosen boys in the past. I am changing my way of thinking and therefore my behaviors.
Therapy is still working well for me. I am not going as often but still committted to the process. I have a long way to go concerning trust issues.
J and I barely speak. I have discovered some lies and deceit. With the tax return, I will add a half bath to the house. And put the house on the market asap.
Still no job. But I have faith, I am on the right path.
For the most part, I am doing fairly well. I still have my moments of grief. I experience bursts of anger. But I am learning to live without him.
Well, I did something I am not sure I will or will not regret. Because I am having such a hard time finding a job in this town and also due to the hurt this house brings me, I again offered to let J buy me out of the deed to the house. He accepted.
I have mixed feelings because the truth is, and he will agree, this house is the embodiment of all my hard work. There is a connection to this home that J has never felt. And the idea that he will benefit from it and possibly bring another person into my home causes great sadness and anger in me.
But, I need to detach from him completely. And the mortgage is paid by his paycheck. Once I am detached financially, I feel I can finally say goodbye.
I am terrified because the heat is really on to find a job so I can find another home. Good news is I don't have a move out date but I don't want to rest on that fact.
New to the board but just wanted to throw this out to you. Getting out of the house will be a good thing. My W has said when she leaves, she doesn't want the house so I get to keep it. But honestly, I am not sure I want to sit in a house we bought and furnished and decorated. Too much to make my mind wonder off into the past.
With a new life comes new places, new people. Hang in there. You are inspiring to those of us that are just beginning this long and painful road.
Wren, this is sensible for you -
and gaining financial independence will open so many new possibilities for you...
whatever lovely stuff you have brought to that house - and I am sure it is gorgeous you will bring through your creativity to wherever you live - it is your creativity and your vision that is truly precious - and truly you...