Considering I am at the beginning of this nightmare I can't imagine that day that those papers will hit me. I'm not sure that today is a celebration or not. I am not sure that us men really get it. I know I never got it until I was forced to look at myself. No amount of yelling and screaming from my wife over the past 24 years made that much of a difference. I did enough to get her to stop and then I would go back to being ignorant. I will pray for you and your happiness. I will pray for him and will hope that he gets it one day.
mwbuckeye: Try not to worry or fret too much about the future. Keep praying. Sometimes we ALL can be dense. Even though I was a pretty darn good wife...I wasn't perfect. For me the divorce wasn't a celebration. For others...it's a relief. Maybe it was a little of that for me...relief.
For now, my mother is driving me nuts! We have always had a parent/child relationship..I'm the parent she's the child-long story.
Anyway, if she doesn't quit "checking on me" I will end up in the looney bin! She calls me daily and wants to get together. I have to get a little forward with her and set my boundaires. I told her I hate to be coddled and will let her know when I do. Part of my frustration comes out with her. I am doing awesome. She wants to figure things out...talk about my ex..or whatever.
I told her I have a busy life and don't want to focus on him anymore. He's taken up too much of my time already.
CW, do we have the same mother?!
I think mine has finally accepted that I can't fix J or us.
To be fair, my brother and his wife separated around the same time. So 2009 was full of loss for the family.
Nicely done CW. A lot of people, myself included, during times like this allow, even at times welcome, someone overtaking their life. Possibly even making decisions for them. I am sure her intentions may be from the heart, however you are choosing to stand on your own two feet. Thats good.
I feel a bit bad but my mother and I have a relationship that a bit....different. Anyway, I treat her with respect and all but am very forward with her. I can't "think" she understands what I am saying. I have to tell her directly.
I am feeling so good guys! Really. I have a moment or two, like this morning when I was having a chest cramp (left side) from working out and sleeping wrong. I thought if I had a heart attack..no body would find me until Friday! It cried a little when I woke up. Then, I said a prayer and figured I have to die sometime. I guess I don't really care who is here to witness it!
Busy week guys! I don't know how I am going to find time to date!!
I have such a full life. I smile more. It isn't perfect and I have moments and thoughts of my previous life-the one that I had so desperately wanted back.
K: I like rock climbing! But the French classes can be picked up along the way...later. I guess it's about being outdoors for me and releasing the emotions that way.
Wren: I am not a natural smiler but I practice smiling at people-strangers even. Then I say "hello" when appropriate. How is your new "friend" coming along. I hope you are having a great time.
Re: The Real World cont....after the divorce.
