The Real World cont....after the divorce.

wren · 02-03-2010, 07:09 AM

Adventures of CW!

Corpuswife · 02-03-2010, 10:23 AM

So far my online dating has been a bust guys! I've been "winked" out and had emails but really no one has struck my interest. I'm not extremely picky but know what I want.

I do have to follow the advice that I don't have to be looking for a relationship just a date. It takes less pressure off.

So far everything is good. I'm not complaining. Just trying to fit in my life after work and all.

Last week I didn't work out once. I felt like I backtracked a bit and need to get on the wagon. That's one of the pieces that I need to fit in my life.

My ex is friendly in his emails. I guess it is sort of a relief that he his the divorce done. It is for me as well. It's a new world.

Corpuswife · 02-03-2010, 10:25 AM

Wren...also give us an update! We've missed you!!

Feelingalone · 02-03-2010, 10:50 AM

CW, sorry to hear that. But at least you've been winked at and are "out there". Got to keep on that wagon with working out. That is why I choose to do that 6 week program. It wasn't too long or too short and seemed doable and get me in a routine. Now in week 6 I am starting to look forward to working out -- makes me feel better. Heck and since the weather the past two Sundays has sucked -- no soccer -- I need it. Hoping this Sunday I can play.

I agree -- Wren give us updates on you.

Corpuswife · 02-03-2010, 09:12 PM

I've never been a fan of the gym. My friend and I are thinking that we may be taking a dance class called ZUMBA. This is supposed to be alot of fun and great exercise.

My mom and I had dinner tonight. She said she's worried about me. I told her that I was better than 99% of the people. I meant it!

Feelingalone · 02-03-2010, 11:37 PM

CW,

You told your mom the truth, you are better than 99 percent of the people. Just keep it up.

I hate the gym too, but keep it going.

wren · 02-04-2010, 06:36 AM

I think if I could take dance classes at a gym, I would stick with it. Working out bores me. And I am just not motivated enough for self care these days. I'm so ready for Spring.

Ash22 · 02-04-2010, 07:41 AM

Zumba!!! Take the class CW its a lot of fun (and it's quite a workout as well)

Corpuswife · 02-04-2010, 10:14 AM

Ash: Have you taken it? My coworker is addicted. She thinks the cure for world peace=Zumba; to solve hunger=Zumba. We joke with her that she thinks it will solve all of our problems.

Wren: Get out there as much as possible....maybe a dance class. Get the body moving!

I am so proud of you guys. We have come along ways.

By the way....My evenings are getting more exciting. I'm not going to say much here. But I wanted to let you all know...it's good being a "schoolgirl!"

Feelingalone · 02-04-2010, 03:48 PM

Zumba -- oh no. My w does that and has taught it. Actually I think it was the only clasee i've ever seen people walking out with smiles on their face.

Yes Wren, explore life. That is what we all should be doing.

Interesting CW.

Corpuswife · 02-07-2010, 01:52 PM

Hmmm. I am still grieving. I know this as the proof comes in small doses.

A song, from Taylor Swift, made me think of the old day.....pre pre marriage. It's called "15." It made me think about the intensity of first love. Of course, I cried softly in the car....my D was present.

I mention these things as many think I am doing perfect and strong and moving forward. I'm not perfect. Today, I feel melancholy. The good outnumber the bad, at this point.

Notaclue · 02-07-2010, 02:08 PM

Sorry CW, it takes a long time to fully recover, up to 5 or more years in some cases.

My counselor said that we should look for one good day and then two good days and then three good days...... until we have a lot of good days. She also said that every once in a while we will go to a dark place, and something strange may even trigger it, but that's just normal. It's good you are at a point where you have more good days than bad days.

I just want to be as strong as you are someday- you are an inspiration !

knortoh · 02-07-2010, 03:12 PM

hey corpus,
music can hit you right where it hurts and sometimes it is good to let it out..your daughter is old to enough to begin to understand your grief - remember she is grieving too - another version but still grief ....
I would be so more worried about you if you weren't experiencing this as well as feeling ok - none of us is perfect and we don't expect you to be ..sending you lots of love

lost1234 · 02-08-2010, 10:43 AM

omg C! the irony!

i dont even turn the radio on as of late! it gets me every time! i dont care tho cause im always in the car, and sometimes ill listen and have a good old sob fest to let it all out!

some may say it is punishing myself...it always makes me feel better though!

Believe · 02-08-2010, 07:01 PM

I hear you guys! I just wish that after 13 months I could stop crying. I cry because I am hurt or lonely or exhausted emotionally or out of sheer frustration. It sucks.