Re: Dating While Separated Cheating?
I am not going to straddle the fence here:
It is not cheating.
Cheating to me involves deception.
Now, if you were perhaps hiding a man on the side, absolutely, that is cheating.
Now. . .as to what's healthy. . .I think the healthiest thing to do is to extend a courtesy of a "mourning period" to whatever spouse for however long. A year is a respectable mourning period.
I told my wife I would at least like 3.5 months (May to Labor Day) where we didn't date anyone. She disrespected me and the marriage by going out on a date the next month (just to be defiant, I guess. . .whatever I suggested, it had to be wrong).
So. . .if you can extend the courtesy to your husband, I would recommend it in the name of keeping better relations. I would say relations went very south from there on in with my stb-x with that.
Just ask what he exactly wants? Until the decree? 2 years?
And then explain why you think that isn't healthy either.