02-09-2010, 03:30 PM
Join Date: Jun 2009
| | Do I step back in now under certain circumstances?
Hello everyone. I am writing because I need some honest opinions. I will try to keep this as short as possible and I thank you ahead of time for reading and contributing. I have been separated now for just over a year. My divorce is in progress and may be final as soon as the end of this month. My wife really doesn't talk to me and is essentially the one that gave up.
My dilemma is this...after talking with a few of her friends I have found out that she has completely isolated herself from everybody. She never leaves her apartment and now she isn't even talking on the phone with her friends. I have known all along that she smokes marijuana but I am told she is now doing it ALL the time. I am also told that her friends have reason to believe that she is also hooked on even heavier drugs, possibly prescription. This does not surprise me as she has never really known how to deal with stress and/or anxiety. I am very worried about her and am not really sure what to do.
Part of me says it's no longer my problem and it's not even really my business. In all reality she has shut me out of her life (along with her entire network of friends and family). The other part of me says that I should make her parents aware of this or try in some fashion to get her help. The signs all point to a drug problem (severe weight loss, withdrawal, lack of ambition, irritated etc.) but obviously I have not actually seen it happen so there is a certain level of speculation. I don't want to raise unecessary concern but I also don't want something bad to happen and feel like I did nothing.
Any input would be greatly appreciated and feel free to ask any questions you may have.