Okay, example for Step #1 (Taking Charge):
She's moving out, so you need to take charge, to take responsibility for your marriage and her reactions by asking yourself the following question:
"What did *I* do to cause her to react that way?"
Stop all blaming, stop all complaining, and stop replaying in your head all the times you think she wronged you. Shed your attachment to those things. (I teach a process called "The FACT(TM)" to help let those things go.)
I'm not saying you're doing those things...but if we're honest, we'll admit that we all do. All us men have what I call an ISB: Inner Sucky-Baby
Learn to shed your inner sucky-baby. A man that has shed his inner sucky-baby becomes 100x more magnetic and compelling to his woman.
Example for Step #2 (Feminese):
Her emotional needs can usually return back to her need for SECS(TM): Safety, Excitement, Connection, or Significance.
So ask yourself,
"What emotional pleas has she made to me?
Is she not opening up to me? Maybe I'm not meeting her need for safety.
Has she complained about boredom or acted bored in my presence? Maybe I'm not meeting her need for connection.
Has she complained that I neglect her? Maybe I'm not meeting her need for significance."
Toshiba, make sure you pay attention to her Feminese(TM) cues. What emotions are driving her behaviour?
It starts with paying attention to the cues, asking the right questions, and interpreting her Feminese. Only then will you find the right answers.
Here in the forum, we only have part of the picture. And that part of the picture is through your filter. But if you're overlooking her key emotional signals, then so will we.
Example for Step #3 (Becoming Magnetic):
The biggest secret to Magnetism and to winning your wife's heart is balancing between Distance & Closeness.
You create Distance by focusing on your individuality, your purpose in life, your passions, by getting good control over your own life, by building your Respectability as a man...by engaging in what I call Masculine Development(TM).
Focus on your own life until your own life brings you so much joy and is filled with so much passion that you can then bring that joy and passion into your wife's life.
Take a personal development course. Create your own Growth Atlas(TM) to help you get crystal-clear on who *you* are as a man what direction your life needs to go (this is something I introduce in my Wife Magnet program--it takes some time to build).
Take up a martial art or a sport or a hobby that you're passionate about...especially if it's something physical and challenging.
That is for Distance. Notice that it has everything to do with you and nothing to do with your wife or your marriage. But it will *impact* your wife and your marriage dramatically. Many husbands overlook this.
Closeness, on the other hand, is entirely about your marriage and your relationship with your wife.
It entails that you build intimacy with her. Play with her. Enjoy her company. One of the biggest secrets to Intimacy is to *keep it light*.
Play hothands with her. Thumb wrestle with her. Tease her. Joke around. Play a boardgame with her, and make sure to cheat
. Do things together that were fun back when we were kids.
Make sure to avoid the 4 connection killers: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. Those things make relationships heavy and stressful.
Now, you'll have to read the signs of whether you need to focus more on your Masculine Development or on your Intimacy.
If your wife acted disrespectful or contemptful (rolling her eyes when you speak, putting you down, being sarcastic, not honouring you, etc.), then you probably need to focus on your Masculine Development.
If your wife acted lonely or sad (complaining that you don't focus on her enough, or using body language or words that indicate she feels heavy around you), for example, then you probably need to focus on your Intimacy with her.
I could go on, but I hope that gives you some examples and something to work with.
Keep Your Wife Magnetized!
Jemal. WifeMagnet.com JustHusbands.com