03-31-2010, 01:32 PM
Join Date: Mar 2010
| | Re: Wiife Cheated With Boss - Doesn't know about staying married
You were not a thread killer, I just didn't have any updates. Two nights ago, we both talked and we were 95% ready to call it quits. Her parents are pastors so I knew they wouldn't really like our decision and they mentioned some intensive counseling in May. It made my W think about it and ask me if I think it would be good. My original response was that we can do counseling here and we don't need to fly to another place in May to get it done. I think I am just over it, but then it makes me sad to hear her talk about getting her own place. Is that normal?
I think about all the crappy times we had and how bad we were for each other, but it still is sad to know that it is just about over. I already have all the divorce stuff ready to go, I just have to go down and pay the lawyer fee to start finalizing everything. I assume others have gone through this same process where there are major doubts towards the end. The W doesn't tell me that she really wants to fight for it, but yet she gives subtle hints of possibly wanting to save it...I guess that just isn't good enough for me, not after all the selfish things she has manipulated me to believe over the past few years.
Are the doubts somewhat normal at the end of these things? If she were still cheating on me, I guess this would be easy, but she also doesn't tell me that she truly wants to work this thing through...
Anyway, - any thoughts would be helpful here. Do I push this over the goal line and be done or do I really buy into her words and not necessarily her actions?