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post #136 of 414 (permalink) Old 11-18-2014, 11:38 PM Thread Starter
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[QUOTE=honcho;10977809]12 gauge ammo. She claims I have 175 cases worth 150 bucks a case which comes to 43750 rounds and worth $26250. How or why she ever arrived at those magic numbers I will never know.


She must be using the same WAW calculator mine is using.
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So tomorrow my stbx has to give a deposition for the r/o hearing. My lawyer filed to do that late last week. I didn’t even know you could do depositions for an r/o hearing. My lawyer scheduled the deposition to be done at my office just to push her buttons.

She has no lawyer for this and her divorce lawyer is resolute that he wont touch this with a 10 foot pole. My lawyer informed him of the deposition and all he said was “not my problem”. She has panicked everytime we have filed for deposition in the divorce case begging and pleading to not have to go thru with it according to her lawyer. Each time we have gotten close to deposition in the past has been the only thing close to movement on the divorce front which has gotten her out of it.

The only way she can get out of it tomorrow is if she drops the ro but then it reinforces my frivolous suit I have against her. Given how much she bad mouthed everyone who works for me, her having to come to this building will humiliate her. If she doesn’t show up she is in contempt of court. If she does actually go thru with this it should make for some interesting dramatics.

When we talked to her lawyer last week he was explaining if she doesn’t come back to earth here shortly he is out. He already has the paperwork written up to sue her for his fees etc. He has his exit plan figured out. She owes him way more money than I was guessing.

On a plus side, her family bailed her out and refinanced the old house and I signed the papers last Friday so Im officially out of the old one. At least that headache is over with…..for now anyway.
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You're coming down the home stretch.

Send her lawyer a Christmas card by writing to the bar and informing them that he knowingly billed a mentally ill person many hours of service that harmed all concerned.

Your crazy ex should not have to pay this a hole. I am not on her side but he is a bottom feeder who should be punished. You should raise concrete points. Make his life hell. He did it to you.
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You're coming down the home stretch.

Send her lawyer a Christmas card by writing to the bar and informing them that he knowingly billed a mentally ill person many hours of service that harmed all concerned.

Your crazy ex should not have to pay this a hole. I am not on her side but he is a bottom feeder who should be punished. You should raise concrete points. Make his life hell. He did it to you.
The state bars investigation of her attorney will apparently go on longer than my divorce. When I contacted them last week asking for a status update all they would tell me is they haven't concluded the investigation.
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She did not show up for deposition this afternoon. She met with her attorney this morning and he called my lawyer later in the morning.

She of course claims she never got the paperwork for deposition. When her lawyer informed her it was this afternoon she told him that she was busy and wouldnt show up.

Since she is representing herself in the ro. So even though she knew about the hearing even at the last minute supposedly she neglected to contact the court or my attorney to discuss any scheduling problem. She just blew it off. My lawyer then spent the afternoon filing contempt charges against her.

The saga continues....
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It's sad. She's lost her mind and her sickness is gaming the system. Her lawyer is a real shxt for trying to cash in all her chips. It's not just her behavior but his that has stretched this out.
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It's sad. She's lost her mind and her sickness is gaming the system. Her lawyer is a real shxt for trying to cash in all her chips. It's not just her behavior but his that has stretched this out.
I know he has abused the system for his own gain. I had another long talk with mine about her Atty irregularities in this fiasco. After two years he can't even get the simplest paperwork right. He sent us an offer today and he had her assets listed as mine, last week we agree on some premartal items. Today they aren't again. One of my motorcycles that I got as my high school graduation present back in 1984 has now suddenly become marital. One other bike suddenly jumped in value 10 grand over book value. All this we had agreed on forever and now today its different.
I manage a Harley dealership and he is trying to tell me I don't understand how to appraise a motorcycle. Its just nonsense and he can't think I'm this stupid.
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His plan is to bankrupt your ex to get all her money. You should have your lawyer or some other third party inform her parents so that they can steer her to another lawyer or settle.
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Well in defense of her lawyer...

Oh wait...did you say Lawyer?

You know whaat Earnest Hemmingway called 1000 lawyers at the bottom of the sea?
A good start.




Hang in there. Its almost over.

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Almost over, I wish that were true. She has at least 2 more angles she can play to get more delays. This judge has humored her so far, I have a hard time believing he wont continue to do so.

The world humors the crazy.....
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Almost over, I wish that were true. She has at least 2 more angles she can play to get more delays. This judge has humored her so far, I have a hard time believing he wont continue to do so.

The world humors the crazy.....

The world is a sad place if they get their jollies on that way. Kind of makes you wish that divorces become automatic after a certain period of time.

I am such a tree hugger because it gives me wood!
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The world is a sad place if they get their jollies on that way. Kind of makes you wish that divorces become automatic after a certain period of time.
The divorce system needs to be revamped. The business of divorce is not this all consuming business deal that needs months or years to settle. Its foolishness.

The system is designed and will not change because lawyers wont restructure the cash cow. I know one person and her divorce endured for 4 long years, again with no children involved and no empire to be divided.
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Had my court hearing today for her latest R/O. It was dismissed. My attorney never even had to ask a question. I never got to testify, it never got that far.

The judge asked her several questions and the answers got weirder and sillier with each one. When asked how I was stalking her she said saw what she thinks was my car at a park-n-ride parking lot she drove past to her parents house so I must be following her.

When the judge asked about me driving by the house the story changed to she saw someone on a motorcycle drive by the house and it must have been one of my friends reporting on her activity.

When the judge asked about me stealing the mail my stbx said she found a letter in the mailbox that was unsealed so I must have taken it and read it and then put it back.

My stbx claimed she had to move 6 times because I found out where she lived. The judge asked her for an example of my reign of terror that would cause her to move and she said that because the cable bill got forwarded to one of her addresses that I did that on purpose.

She claimed I was watching her at work but then in the next sentence stated that I don't know where she works now. The judge asked if I don't know where she works how can I be stalking her? My stbx then said she saw a car like mine drive by so it must be me.

Then my stbx went on a rant about how I have a sex addiction problem for the last 10 years and how that has caused her PTSD which her first therapist told her but that person moved away and how I now "forced" her to take the house in the divorce and now feels trapped even though she fought to get the house back and because I found out about the roof being taken off the house I must be driving by checking up on her and it just got stranger and stranger.

This court commissioner is notorious for stretching to keep these orders in place and she gave my stbx just about every opening she could to find a reason to keep it in force. The domestic violence advocate who my stbx brought along was even sinking and looking away at how lame the entire affair was getting.

The judge quit asking questions, flat out told her she could never possibly meet the slightest standards of abuse or harassment and dismissed. Told my stbx that she should really just focus on getting the divorce done and move on with her life.

The judge also dismissed the contempt charges and my request to have my attorney fees covered which didn't surprise me I guess but was hoping some kind of real consequence might finally shake my stbx into finishing this mess.
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Until she is on meds and in therapy, she will be like this. And the moment she becomes psychotic, her paranoia will return and she will blame you. So is with these diseases.
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