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post #91 of 414 (permalink) Old 10-12-2014, 12:57 AM
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Re: how do I at least make one last attempt

Honcho, you must watch this movie...

Divorce Corp. Documentary. A shocking exposé of the family law industry

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I received a call today from an insurance adjuster. Apparently my stbx wanted to make a claim on our homeowners policy for a new roof on the house that she took possession last month. I asked him what kind of a claim and he said hail damage.
I asked him when we had a hailstorm because I don’t remember any. He said he was calling me with the same question because we haven’t had a hail storm in several years. He then tells me he went to the home to inspect whatever damage is there and the old roof had already been torn off the house. Any possible evidence of damage has now been hauled off to a landfill.
The insurance is denying the claim which makes sense and I do agree no such claim should have ever been made. But why in the world would she have the roof torn off, then try to get insurance money. It will cost around 8-10k for a new roof on that house. She is crying poor all over town, she owes her lawyer a bunch of cash. The kitchen remodel needs to be completed and she cant afford that either, now lets put a new roof on?
She is having problems just getting the house refinanced with what we owed on the home let alone these additional costs. It makes no sense and really in the world of divorce you cant spend cash like this. She is just adding another problem into this mess. I told the adjuster good luck when he tells her the roof isn’t covered and he really should do it over the phone because in person wont go well for him.
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can the state have her committed ?
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Her lawyer can waive his fees to contribute to the roof.
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Her lawyer can waive his fees to contribute to the roof.
Well I guess this is my punishment for a quiet week last week. Yesterday its insurance adjusters with fantasy hail damage, today its her lawyer saying I neglected the roof thus wrecking it creating a mold issue in the attic and somehow its also wrecked the deck even though no part of the deck has a roof.

I guess for all these years living there I should have gone and toweled off the roof after each rain and snow so it wasn't "neglected". I did ask them to try and follow one storyline of nonsense because it just confuses the viewers at home the soap opera world she has created.

Why her lawyer felt it necessary to waste his time and our money chasing this now is beyond me. Its all a mute point considering I was willing to keep the house for the agreed upon price and I had a buyer willing to buy it at that price. She had plenty of time to hire a building inspector to look the home over prior to accepting it or even saying she wanted it.

The woman just cant live without the drama. She got what she wanted and she isn't happy she got it. I told the clowns this would happen but everybody else "knew better". Im so sick of hearing my lawyer say I guess you are right......
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Well I guess this is my punishment for a quiet week last week. Yesterday its insurance adjusters with fantasy hail damage, today its her lawyer saying I neglected the roof thus wrecking it creating a mold issue in the attic and somehow its also wrecked the deck even though no part of the deck has a roof.

I guess for all these years living there I should have gone and toweled off the roof after each rain and snow so it wasn't "neglected". I did ask them to try and follow one storyline of nonsense because it just confuses the viewers at home the soap opera world she has created.

Why her lawyer felt it necessary to waste his time and our money chasing this now is beyond me. Its all a mute point considering I was willing to keep the house for the agreed upon price and I had a buyer willing to buy it at that price. She had plenty of time to hire a building inspector to look the home over prior to accepting it or even saying she wanted it.

The woman just cant live without the drama. She got what she wanted and she isn't happy she got it. I told the clowns this would happen but everybody else "knew better". Im so sick of hearing my lawyer say I guess you are right......
Good grief grab your passport and move to Costa Rica these shysters are going to drain you and then the judge orders you to sell your property to pay the bills.
Nice setup these two have.
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Well I guess this is my punishment for a quiet week last week. Yesterday its insurance adjusters with fantasy hail damage, today its her lawyer saying I neglected the roof thus wrecking it creating a mold issue in the attic and somehow its also wrecked the deck even though no part of the deck has a roof.

I guess for all these years living there I should have gone and toweled off the roof after each rain and snow so it wasn't "neglected". I did ask them to try and follow one storyline of nonsense because it just confuses the viewers at home the soap opera world she has created.

Why her lawyer felt it necessary to waste his time and our money chasing this now is beyond me. Its all a mute point considering I was willing to keep the house for the agreed upon price and I had a buyer willing to buy it at that price. She had plenty of time to hire a building inspector to look the home over prior to accepting it or even saying she wanted it.

The woman just cant live without the drama. She got what she wanted and she isn't happy she got it. I told the clowns this would happen but everybody else "knew better". Im so sick of hearing my lawyer say I guess you are right......
So now her lawyer is a building contractor too huh? Man what sh*tshow. At least by now you've learned to just throw your hands up and say "What else can these crazy people come up with??"
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The movie "divorcecorp" sums it up it is a 51 BILLION dollar a year industry.
I "only" spent $9,000 out of court lol.

I had to stop watching it when a guy got zero custody of his 2 girls because of a blog he had.

You two will probably stop watching it also.
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So now her lawyer is a building contractor too huh? Man what sh*tshow. At least by now you've learned to just throw your hands up and say "What else can these crazy people come up with??"
Her lawyer is an expert in everything, just ask him. He has no problems explaining to anyone who will listen that he is the smartest person he knows.

The person who wanted to buy my house was a building contractor so I do think he understood what he was trying to buy when me made the offer. I probably should call him and let him know how lucky he was he didn't get stuck with my lemon of a house.
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Good grief grab your passport and move to Costa Rica these shysters are going to drain you and then the judge orders you to sell your property to pay the bills.
Nice setup these two have.
My dad lived in Rio for a time. He loved it down there so maybe Brazil. He used to always call me in January when its 10 below here in Wisconsin and tell me its 80 and he is enjoying the scenery at the nude beach.....

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My dad lived in Rio for a time. He loved it down there so maybe Brazil. He used to always call me in January when its 10 below here in Wisconsin and tell me its 80 and he is enjoying the scenery at the nude beach.....
Went down there for my birthday in march of 98.
Prostitution is legal there you go to a bar and the hottest honeys swarm within 3 minutes.
Got hammered one night and thought I lost my passport and drove to the embassy.
I forgot I stuck it in the shaving kit.

Back to you time to stop this crap.
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Honcho,

Hopefully you can move on now. Bearing responsibility for an ill person is going to wear you out.

Work out. Go to meetup.
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Honcho,

Hopefully you can move on now. Bearing responsibility for an ill person is going to wear you out.

Work out. Go to meetup.
Getting rid of her is wearing me out!

Its official. My lawyer has now finally admitted that in his 33 years of divorce work he has never seen one a weird as mine. He told me in the past I was in the top 5 but the roof has now put me on top. Maybe Ill get a free t-shirt for that

I have worked out some, gained back the weight I first lost when she left. I was never out of shape really so that hasn't been much of an issue.
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We had a motion hearing yesterday to select the referee/auctioneer/mediator or whatever is the term today as it seemingly changes from one to the next. The judge made a choice and that took about 30 seconds. I am so glad my attorney had to drive 2 hours for that decision.
This time my stbx just stared at the desk. The judge ordered her to take her sunglasses off and that was the only time she ever moved. I fully expected to have a grand performance from her attorney regarding the roof and all the other mystery damage to the house. Instead the performance surrounded the fish tank in my office at work. He rambled for a half hour about how we had to drag everybody to my office and do the auction there and had a whole wonderful imaginative story about the value of the tank. This time it’s a 300 gallon tank, last time it was 550 and for the folks keep track at home it’s a 150 gallons and its not even my tank, it’s my bosses tank.

So in the last 2 weeks we have bounced from fights over personal property, what is marital/non marital. Bad roofs and damage to a house in an ever changing story of fantasy and we have a court hearing and they talk about a fish tank. I sarcastically told my lawyer gosh over a year ago that the fish would be the key to the entire divorce. I really did mean it as a joke yet here we are debating that in court and this idiot judge is even listening to this drove me nuts.

The judge suggested that we just take a picture of the tank and her lawyer said that wasn’t good enough. We had to see the tank. I spoke up and reminded everyone yet again…..I DON’T OWN THE TANK, its not included in prop division and the judge to me to not talk. After all this nonsense the judge then comes up with “ let the auctioneer make the decision”.

This whole thing is like the hamster in the wheel, it just goes round and round and never gets anywhere. I will admit the fish angle is an interesting tactic and no one expected it so I give him an A for being creative but just how dumb does this have to get. Why not make the performance on something that at least has some value……or even belongs to me.
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What does your boss say?
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