04-22-2010, 10:58 AM
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Jacksonville, FL
| | Re: how can he say he still has feelings for me but he doesn't love me!
I'm in a similar situation with my H, except that he has told me that he cares about, just not in love with me anymore. At least yours still has some sort of "love" feelings for you. But as far as taking a step back, good move. Everything I have read (an abundance) has recommended backing off in this situation. Make him really see his life without you. It's harder to do when you have kids, because of course they want to see and talk to dad, which means you also have to. Best thing is for him to stay gone a few days, and only have the kids talk to him on the phone. Maybe a good night text or something, but limit the talking. Also I would suggest counseling, either together or just for him. Sometimes we have problems or hang ups we aren't even aware of, and an impartial 3rd party could help. I wish you the best of luck, just tread lightly and try to be patient. See if he likes the idea of going on a date with you after a few days, do something silly and fun, and try not to talk about anything heavy. I think that sometimes men realize that they are with one woman (no matter how great she is) and it will only be her, forever, and they freak out. Until they realize that noone else on earth will love them the way we do. I hope mine sees that soon.