Re: Giving her the space she needs
I am in the same boat,
I know is hard, i know we feel like we have a dark cloud over our heads, that's why I understand.
Here is what I have done so far this past month and pretty much I can say that she has noticed, even if we feel that it's not enough. Remember, by giving her time and space, you are telling her that you trust her judgment, you trust that she will decide what's best for her and moreover that you love her w/o expecting anything in return, and that my friend is TRUE LOVE. Actions speak louder than words, even if an action is to let go and not talk to her, because is based on love.
Here is my advice: if you feel that you need to contact her don't do it in excess, you only know what is best for you because as you said it will push her away if you keep it doing it, BE CAREFUL. If you do keep it short and concise and don't bring anything related to the relationship, she wants time and space to think, and she does not need you to keep reminding her that you still love her, she knows.
If you feel that you need to tell he something every day, write it in a journal, and save it for yourself and you may even show it to her if you reconcile. You won't believe how much it helps to let everything our of your system, at the end you won't even need to click the send button, push the talk key in your cellphone, or knock on her door.
Also, exercise, tire yourself up to avoid going over and over the same issues, it works wonders. Do not beat yourself up, you are not the only at fault. Be nice to her, if she asks you for a favor do it but just do the favor, she is not asking you to reconcile or to have a romantic conversation.
Trust in god/life or destiny because if it is meant to be it will, also analyze your part in this and work on yourself. Let her know what you are doing BUT do not give her a daily summary, with the only fact that she knows that you are doing it and the way your are behaving by giving her space she will notice.
Counseling is AMAZING, i am going and it's helping me a lot. Read self-help books, the more you learn, the more you change, it will make you feel better about yourself, I guarantee you. There is a win win situation, if you reconcile you will be a better husband, if you don't you will be a better man and future partner.
BE PATIENT and have hope and peace