06-17-2010, 05:47 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: I want you to tell me you love me so I can tell you I don't
FSW- I am right there with you. I'm pretty controlling too, I want my H to react the way I think he should , do the things I think he should . When he doesn't I am upset, disappointed and angry. Lord knows he has issues
, but I cant make him better himself unless it matters to him. I'm having a hard time waiting this out too. I am just staying focused on protecting the kids and I and moving forward with getting support and custody/visitation filed with the courts. If he truly wants what he says he does, he'll make the effort. I cant force the issue as much as I want to- because it wont work and would probably do just the opposite. His mood swings right now are difficult, but work and the kids keep me busy. Your H sounds pretty up and down too. It was hard for me too with the money my H was wasting, but I finally let it go a few months ago and he will have to deal with it. My accounts are all separate and it's his problem. The courts will deal with him on the money he owes for support, I had to let that go too. It's hard and unfair
You are very strong and capable. Both of us have our children with us and if our Husbands want to miss out on watching them grow up and sharing in their lives it is truly their loss. Our children will remember who was there for them and set a good example. Please let your family know so they can offer support, I dont know what I would have done without my family.