06-26-2010, 09:22 AM
Join Date: Jun 2010
| | Re: Do I have hope for reconciliation?
I must agree. But yet I cling to hope and faith that my wife will wake up, come home with our children, and face issues that exist instead of running. I cannot help but to think the issues she's been going through with our daughter for the past 2 years and the issues with the trauma of facing major surgery and nearly dying on the operating table and the hysterectomy with no hormone therapy has played a part of her rash decision and her emotional disconnect from me. Am confused, she claimed for months that she suffers from chronic headaches, nausea, could not stand to be touched, constantly said she felt like her skin was crawling and was so irritable with me. She stated that the thought of physical intimacy made her have panic attacks. She stated that while there was peace in her home, there was a storm going on inside her and that all she felt like doing was crying. 3 months pryer to her leaving and filing for divorce, she began wearing bras to bed stating her breasts stayed tender. She would make any excuse to sleep downstairs or stay at her mothers. I broke my heart. Then after stating this stuff, I found the facebook messages that were explicit and insunuated the two of them had sex encounter. It makes no sense. She has stated for months that she has no sex drive, the thought of it scares the hell out of her and has showed all of these symptoms. Yet the messages. Am clueless and looking for answers. She always had great values that were family centered and for her to want to split family which affects the children emotionally is beyond me. We have talked very little since she left and filed divorce 3 weeks ago. I was served papers that claimed emotional abuse, unhealthy living conditions on the grounds or irrecroncilable differences and the papers stipulated that her intentions were to cut me and take everything, my very life. I could not believe this and was forced to get my own attorney. Now the truth is about me that I am a very loving and affectionate husband. I put my wife on a pedistal and trusted her with everything including totla control of our finances which I have found since she left to be a complete mess. We will be lucky if we are not facing bankrupcty through this. Nothing makes since. I have never emotionally, physically abused my wife or children. In fact, I have always showere them with gifts, complements, support and love. She states that her decision makes her at peace and happy. How could she be happy living out of a suitcase with our 2 children at her parents home.