I threw mine into the garden when we separated. I went and looked for it a while later but couldnít find it. Reckon Iím going to have to buy another one just to keep the women at bay, joking of course.
Itís strange though when we were together I would bring attention to my wedding ring if I came in contact with a woman I could spend time with, like a defence against myself in case I was tempted. I think I should wear one though because Iím certainly not available and wont be for a while.
Maybe when to take it off just depends on how we feel and itís nothing to do with the legality of the process. If you feel available and ready to start a new relationship then a wedding ring will put the good guys off of approaching you.
I actually stopped wearing my ring well before separating...it was a work thing. Then when she asked for a separation I started wearing it again, I don't know if it was a feeble attempt to get her to love me or what. Then after awhile I just took it off. It was just making me sad and having no positive effects. My wife wore her rings during everything. She took them off to clean them once, we moved, and she has no clue where they're at now. That hurts my feelings that they were so easily discarded, but hey, so was the marriage and my feelings Posted via Mobile Device
I never took mine off over almost 15 years of marriage. Even after my stb-xw blindsided me at our daughter's soccer game Oct 09 and had me served with divorce papers I still kept my ring on. I fought to save our marriage until Thanksgiving 09 when I found out she was not being faithful. I took it off immediately and have not worn in since.
I took my rings off about a month ago (I've been moved out for almost 4 months now). I wore them as long as I did just because he didn't want everyone to know what was going on.
Then one day we got into a huge fight and he was screaming at me because I called him out on something HE did...and that is not how a man should treat his wife, and certainly in the circumstances we were in...so I took them off, put them back into the box they came in, and I buried them deep into my closet.
Its sad, because I still attempt to take my rings off every time I go to use lotion, or cook/clean etc etc. Funny how they scream out bad reminders when you still have them on just for show...but how much it hurts when you no longer have them at all
Needy - I hear you. I had a habit of turning my gold band on my ring finger. When I took it off - the reason hurt more than not having the ring - but now that time has taken the sting out of the reason, I find that not having the ring is something I miss.
I wore my ring at all times, lifting weights, wakeboarding, anything I did, when I lost weight I would put on my middle finger when my hands were wet. I took it off when she asked for the divorce and set it on the table because she wasn't wearing hers. Once she left I put it back on and wore it until I found out about the OM. It is now sitting on the fireplace hearth next to our wedding picture.
Thinking about having the words "People lie" engraved on the outside, since she put, "I will love you forever" on the inside.
I wore my ring all the time also--never took it off even to shower. When he moved out of state to be with another woman, I wore them because I was still married. For the two years I worked on myself, tried to end the affair, and tried to save my marriage I wore them because I was still married even if he was moved out. When divorce papers were filed, I put them on my right hand just as a reminder that I wasn't single...but also wasn't married. When the divorce papers were signed and it was finalized, I took them off and had the white gold made into an heirloom necklace for my daughter.
The morning I left for good, left it on the table with a note giving it to my son. We had two each, one for everyday and very special ones for our wedding day, which we never wore after that. My daughter has the special ring. Sometimes I go to reach for it, but it's not too often now.
I never actually liked my wedding rings, but wore them, up until I had my youngest daughter (who is 3 now) I developed an alergy to gold. I wore them a bit here and there, but they came off completely the day I left my husband (although it has only been a week).
I took mine off the day I found out he had cheated on me, now I regret it as I still think of myself as married to him eventhough we are separated, I miss it so much and it hurts everytime I look at my empty finger, I want so much to put it back on but feel it would be a step backwards.