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Still having fun? What red flags are appearing? Or.... what bandages are falling off?
Sure its fun. She unstable to say the least. Flies off the handle and starts screaming at the workers outside when they interrupt her sleep...its pretty funny but nothing I would tolerate if it directed at me. Like I said, its fine for now.


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Sure its fun. She unstable to say the least. Flies off the handle and starts screaming at the workers outside when they interrupt her sleep...its pretty funny but nothing I would tolerate if it directed at me. Like I said, its fine for now.
This is a trailer to the actual movie, soon to come.

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C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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This is a trailer to the actual movie, soon to come.

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This is a trailer to the actual movie, soon to come.
Lets not forget this conversation the other day lol

HW: My car was hit while parked. Theres a crack in the bumper
Unbe: Well, that could happen anywhere. Your work at a mall.
HW: No it happened while parked by you
Unbe: Ok
HW: I am not driving my car there any more.
Unbe: OK

SH$$T test flying, we are at the 6 mo mark with HW so I guess she waited lol. Don't they usually come around the 90 day mark?

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Lets not forget this conversation the other day lol

HW: My car was hit while parked. Theres a crack in the bumper
Unbe: Well, that could happen anywhere. Your work at a mall.
HW: No it happened while parked by you
Unbe: Ok
HW: I am not driving my car there any more.
Unbe: OK

SH$$T test flying, we are at the 6 mo mark with HW so I guess she waited lol. Don't they usually come around the 90 day mark?
Always 3-6 months.

She's just a little late.
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Lets not forget this conversation the other day lol

HW: My car was hit while parked. Theres a crack in the bumper
Unbe: Well, that could happen anywhere. Your work at a mall.
HW: No it happened while parked by you
Unbe: Ok
HW: I am not driving my car there any more.
Unbe: OK

SH$$T test flying, we are at the 6 mo mark with HW so I guess she waited lol. Don't they usually come around the 90 day mark?
Schit tests will come as soon as you advance her from an option... to a priority.

My FWB for 18 months.... was never a priority. I made that 110% clear. Zero schit tests.

Closest she got was -aren't you glad I'm not like most girls who (insert schit test)- I always responded

with you would not be here if you did. Unbe.... I do hope you do not see HW as "The One"

as you "thought" you did your 1st W and MB. You said yourself recently you have trouble

getting attached and can't let go.

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One trains others how to treat them.
The people being "trained" as you put it have to allow themselves to be trained and the one doing the training does it because they have the mind set that it is their right to treat people like that and will continue to do so until someone stands up to them or they may just move on to someone who will allow themselves to be trained. It still boils down to not allowing someone else to "train" them. Be true to yourself and treat others as you wanted to be treated. If the person you are with does not fit into that way of thinking then chances are you don't want to be with them. You may find out they believe they should be treated better than you or anyone else and that spells trouble.
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The people being "trained" as you put it have to allow themselves to be trained and the one doing the training does it because they have the mind set that it is their right to treat people like that and will continue to do so until someone stands up to them or they may just move on to someone who will allow themselves to be trained. It still boils down to not allowing someone else to "train" them. Be true to yourself and treat others as you wanted to be treated. If the person you are with does not fit into that way of thinking then chances are you don't want to be with them. You may find out they believe they should be treated better than you or anyone else and that spells trouble.
Allowing someone to mistreat you.... sets a precedence. A very unhealthy one.

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ok guess I just think different. I feel they should treat you the way they did before the marriage. I don't want to train someone how to treat me, I want someone who already treats me in a way that is acceptable to me otherwise why even be with them. I don't want to change the other person I want to find a person that is themselves and understands how to treat others especially someone they want to spend their life with. I have heard too many of my friends make comments about training their husband is like training a puppy and I just don't agree. You love a person for who they are and that would include how they treat others. That being said you can discuss boundaries that accidentally get crossed (given it isn't a trust breaking boundary) but hopefully all that happens prior to marriage. That way all the cards are on the table going into the marriage. Maybe I am just hopeless romantic or optimistic but it just makes things better.
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ok guess I just think different. I feel they should treat you the way they did before the marriage. I don't want to train someone how to treat me, I want someone who already treats me in a way that is acceptable to me otherwise why even be with them. I don't want to change the other person I want to find a person that is themselves and understands how to treat others especially someone they want to spend their life with. I have heard too many of my friends make comments about training their husband is like training a puppy and I just don't agree. You love a person for who they are and that would include how they treat others. That being said you can discuss boundaries that accidentally get crossed (given it isn't a trust breaking boundary) but hopefully all that happens prior to marriage. That way all the cards are on the table going into the marriage. Maybe I am just hopeless romantic or optimistic but it just makes things better.
The steak is juicy.

There is juice amidst the steak.


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There is juice amidst the steak.
LOL you sound just like a .... I don't know how to quantify him I guess an longtime friend with mutual past but you definitely sound just like him
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LOL you sound just like a .... I don't know how to quantify him I guess an longtime friend with mutual past but you definitely sound just like him

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Unbe, stick with this one.

She's going to be fun and teach you a lot.

Don't listen to that Zero guy. He don't know sh1t.


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Unbe, stick with this one.

She's going to be fun and teach you a lot.

Don't listen to that Zero guy. He don't know sh1t.


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She works retail, smokes weed daily, verbally abuses those who interrupt her sleep.

When's the wedding?

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