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Old 01-23-2014, 05:18 PM   #376 (permalink)
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How were you guys between the sheets?
In the begining great. Last 18 months limited and non passionate
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Old 01-23-2014, 05:20 PM   #377 (permalink)
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Room in this thread for another?

FWIW, unbe, I think you're doing a fantastic job.

If I may, slow it down with CF a tad. Keep her around and date but don't get too involved just yet.

Date other women but nothing serious yet.

You're 36, right?

I think you're going to be surprised at the attention you're going to get from other women. Especially as you learn to grasp your manhood again.

There are thousands of women all around you. Sample them. The more you date the more desirable you become to other women.

You haven't even filed yet and it's starting to sound like you've found your "soul mate".
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Old 01-23-2014, 05:24 PM   #378 (permalink)
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Room in this thread for another?

FWIW, unbe, I think you're doing a fantastic job.

If I may, slow it down with CF a tad. Keep her around and date but don't get too involved just yet.

Date other women but nothing serious yet.

You're 36, right?

I think you're going to be surprised at the attention you're going to get from other women. Especially as you learn to grasp your manhood again.

There are thousands of women all around you. Sample them. The more you date the more desirable you become to other women.

You haven't even filed yet and it's starting to sound like you've found your "soul mate".
Agree with everything above and I am. Although the soul mate comment is nonsense. I do not believe in that at all.

Matchbox was supposed to be that, we all see how that turned out lol

I am 36, the filling is just about done. All aboard the run away train to freedom!!!!
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Old 01-23-2014, 05:47 PM   #379 (permalink)
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Matchbox was supposed to be that, we all see how that turned out lol


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Funny how they look so different from 50K, without the pedestal.

Makes you want to kick your own a$$, ya know?
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Old 01-23-2014, 05:52 PM   #380 (permalink)
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Funny how they look so different from 50K, without the pedestal.



Makes you want to kick your own a$$, ya know?

Sure does.

That's part of owning your POS tendencies and learning from your mistakes.
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That would clinch my decision.

She did just enough to secure "this one" and then her attentions turned elsewhere.

Doesn't sound like there's anything to salvage.

Physical attraction is subconscious and precious. That chemistry is easier to find for men than women. Yet, when you have "it" with someone, it's really something to build on.

Almost to a man, those that successfully reconcile are the ones that "had that" between the sheets.
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That would clinch my decision.

She did just enough to secure "this one" and then her attentions turned elsewhere.

Doesn't sound like there's anything to salvage.

Physical attraction is subconscious and precious. That chemistry is easier to find for men than women. Yet, when you have "it" with someone, it's really something to build on.

Almost to a man, those that successfully reconcile are the ones that "had that" between the sheets.
Reflecting back... This might have been the one thing that kept us together for as long as it lasted. Kicking my own a$$ would only be a start to what I really deserve.
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Reflecting back... This might have been the one thing that kept us together for as long as it lasted. Kicking my own a$$ would only be a start to what I really deserve.
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Old 01-24-2014, 01:27 AM   #384 (permalink)
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your new gal is showing what you had been missing

is it her or the rediscovery? too early to say...

but who am I to talk? I'm still seeing a gal I

started seeing before D was final

when Matchbox calls wondering where car is

tell her it is in the driveway

set the matchbox in front of the garage

tell her you are giving her a bottle of anti-freeze

makes sure she will see it.....only do this if you

will not trigger
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Funny how they look so different from 50K, without the pedestal.

Makes you want to kick your own a$$, ya know?


Yep in a nutshell.
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Old 01-24-2014, 04:13 AM   #386 (permalink)
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This soul mate thing is a myth that keeps both men and women stuck.

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Old 01-24-2014, 10:04 AM   #387 (permalink)
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the days are passing by. as they do i can barely remember the so called 'good times' as they are being replaced by my current experiences.

Matchbox's attempt to suck me back into the drama has gone by the waste side, I am just about to secure my own insurance policy. Im sure there are going to be other attempts at a trackter beem suck in ( i can see some other opportunities where she will stop paying other bills) however am ready to deal with them as I am prepping myself now.

Seeing CF tonight.... She was divorced a few years ago and has read many of the books recommended here. Girls got her head on straight, we have a ton in common and we genuinely enjoy being around each other. There is obvious chemistry there but she is fully aware of my situation and the pace this needs to proceed at and is fully supportive over it.

Life is good....

Adding a quote to my signature, seems very appropriate
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the days are passing by. as they do i can barely remember the so called 'good times' as they are being replaced by my current experiences.

Matchbox's attempt to suck me back into the drama has gone by the waste side, I am just about to secure my own insurance policy. Im sure there are going to be other attempts at a trackter beem suck in ( i can see some other opportunities where she will stop paying other bills) however am ready to deal with them as I am prepping myself now.

Seeing CF tonight.... She was divorced a few years ago and has read many of the books recommended here. Girls got her head on straight, we have a ton in common and we genuinely enjoy being around each other. There is obvious chemistry there but she is fully aware of my situation and the pace this needs to proceed at and is fully supportive over it.

Life is good....

Adding a quote to my signature, seems very appropriate
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the days are passing by. as they do i can barely remember the so called 'good times' as they are being replaced by my current experiences.

Matchbox's attempt to suck me back into the drama has gone by the waste side, I am just about to secure my own insurance policy. Im sure there are going to be other attempts at a trackter beem suck in ( i can see some other opportunities where she will stop paying other bills) however am ready to deal with them as I am prepping myself now.

Seeing CF tonight.... She was divorced a few years ago and has read many of the books recommended here. Girls got her head on straight, we have a ton in common and we genuinely enjoy being around each other. There is obvious chemistry there but she is fully aware of my situation and the pace this needs to proceed at and is fully supportive over it.

Life is good....

Adding a quote to my signature, seems very appropriate
Does this mean you are not ridding yourself of the car?
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Old 01-24-2014, 12:26 PM   #390 (permalink)
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Does this mean you are not ridding yourself of the car?
Oh operation matchbox is still in play....

I am in the process of getting my insurance done for my vehicle. Then, I will be getting my other car that shes driving and selling it once I get the copy of the key delivered.
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