Yes you will. My stbx texted me yesterday inviting me to come over to her new place Christmas morning to open presents with the kids. Xmas day is my custody day and she already agreed to meet me at a gas station to exchange the kids. She wanted to drop the kids off at my house but I said no. She doesnt get to come here anymore.
I deleted her text yesterday after I got it with no reply. I am not fully over her, I am sure she is only inviting to try and establish a new "coparenting" relationship, rug sweeping all the terrible things for which she has no remorse. I feel bad for my kids but I dont feel guilty, and that is the difference. She might view me as selfish and not putting the kids first, but kids are in this position because of her selfish actions. Besides the kids might think we are getting back together. They are only 3 and 6.
I deleted the text with no reply at all for a couple reasons:
1. I cant sit, stare at it all day, and think about it
2. She has no remorse and bought into her own bs. She wouldnt understand or respect my view or me as a person, so why waste the time and effort
3. She has no more control over me. Not responding at all proves this to me and to her.
Others on TAM recommended to me to remove my own emotions before making any decisions. Apply logic, which wayward spouses do not do. It will confuse them more since they cant figure logic out and you arent engaging and enabling for them to get control. Maybe this will help you too. Posted via Topify on Android