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post #91 of 1964 (permalink) Old 12-31-2013, 09:00 AM Thread Starter
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Re: Long sotry, prob familar. Need some support

todays update:

with NYE looming I feel like this couldn't come at a better time. Its kind of forcing closuer into the past and hopes for a happier furture,

Had an interesting dream last night, both of my X's were morphed into one person for some reason and I was in the apartment breaking everything that reminded me of stbxw. I woke up sad for some reason, seems like the wrong emotion to that type of dream.

Anyway, excited to start IC on Thursday. I do have a date tonight which I an cautiously optimistic about. No expectations just want to enjoy the company of a happy person. Its been over a year since ive been around someone who genuinely wants to be around me and isn't just around me due to obligation.

Got two of the 6 books I ordered delivered today. No more mr and Awarness by demello. Think Ill start Awarness first.

Starting to see the light, its very dim and far but I do see it flickering......

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todays update:

with NYE looming I feel like this couldn't come at a better time. Its kind of forcing closuer into the past and hopes for a happier furture,

Think positive. Others will notice it. Small steps.

Had an interesting dream last night, both of my X's were morphed into one person

I had a dream this spring. I saw my high school crush, college crush and my X at a sports card convention. I stopped collecting cards and picked up drinking!



Starting to see the light, its very dim and far but I do see it flickering......
Have a good time tonight! No expectations. First gal I went out with after D was filed, had no true intentions with. Reason we went out. Find yourself again......when you do...the girl will seek YOU out. Happy New Year and happy reading

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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Re: Long sotry, prob familar. Need some support

Start with the other book. Awareness is pretty deep.
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Already read awareness. Going to have to read it again.

Rcvd co dependent no more and started that. Wow I have a lot of traits associated with this

Still NC from stbxw nor myself to her. Going to my lawyer next week to start the paperwork. I am very annoyed that I had to initate this as she was the one who was dyeing for this to happen.

Can't wait for IC to tomorrow.
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Already read awareness. Going to have to read it again.

Rcvd co dependent no more and started that. Wow I have a lot of traits associated with this

Still NC from stbxw nor myself to her. Going to my lawyer next week to start the paperwork. I am very annoyed that I had to initate this as she was the one who was dyeing for this to happen.

Can't wait for IC to tomorrow.
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Re: Long sotry, prob familar. Need some support

spoke to my lawyer today and he advsied stbxw reached out for previous tax returns last week (we always filed seperatley)

he told me to hold off for a week or so. am i fittin to go to war here?
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spoke to my lawyer today and he advsied stbxw reached out for previous tax returns last week (we always filed seperatley)

he told me to hold off for a week or so. am i fittin to go to war here?
Is he still her lawyer?
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Is he still her lawyer?
she hired her own lawyer....
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she hired her own lawyer....
Get your own - and fire this guy.
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Todays update:

I seem to be waking up every morning sad and angry then as the day goes on im fine. I think it has to do with waking up in the apartment that we shared.

I am trying to get out of this lease however it is going to be very difficult.

Triggers are everywhere. How do you guys/gals manage to deal with them?

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I seem to be waking up every morning sad and angry then as the day goes on im fine. I think it has to do with waking up in the apartment that we shared.

I am trying to get out of this lease however it is going to be very difficult.

Triggers are everywhere. How do you guys/gals manage to deal with them?
Stay @50k and observe them.

Then decide whether you wish to indulge them.
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Today's update:

So far so good. Had first IC last night and it seemed to go well. He feels he can certainly help me which I am excited about.

I'm about half way through co dependent no more and it's a eye opener to say the least. I hope I can apply some of the principles to myself going forward.

I am having difficulty getting to 50k. I'd say I'm about 10 feet right now. Any advice?
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So I heard some interesting news today. Apparently my lovely stbxw is bashing me and blaming the entire thing on me. Saying I kicked her out and claming no responsibility what so ever.

Now normally this wouldn't matter but unfortunately this may affect my job.

I need some advice her fellas. I want to nip this in the bud
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So I heard some interesting news today. Apparently my lovely stbxw is bashing me and blaming the entire thing on me. Saying I kicked her out and claming no responsibility what so ever.

Now normally this wouldn't matter but unfortunately this may affect my job.

I need some advice her fellas. I want to nip this in the bud
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Typical behavior.

She wants to gain sympathy from anyone who's willing to listen.

The blame has to go somewhere and it can't/won't be her.
- it happened to me and I fell for it. I spent months in my own fog. Don't believe a word of it.

She's creating a smoke screen for whatever she's hiding.

You have to drive this home while she's in this state of craziness.
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Agreed. Strike fast, strike hard. Own your decisions, opposite of her. I am right there with you. Know this, she does not care about you. At all. She cares only for herself. It has nothing to do with you. Most likely you wont ever get answers or an apology. And that is ok. What good are the words from a liar? They are worthless. I know it is hard, scary, and filled with hurt and pain. But that is life. She isnt going to fix herself, you will. And then you will meet someone great. Trust me. It gets easier.

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