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post #121 of 1955 (permalink) Old 01-06-2014, 10:48 AM
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Re: Long sotry, prob familar. Need some support

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There was no response to my text message from yesterday. Not sure I was expecting one either. I have to stop getting so emotional every time I hear/see something from team delusional.

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Everytime you are making a decision based upon emotion, step back, and observe logically. It sounds simple enough, but it really isn't. Once the habit is formed however, everything is much clearer.


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It's like clock work. Everything I saw no contact I get contact.

Just got this text message.

I will meet you to discuss whatever you want, at any time, but please leave my mom out of this. (I haven't involved her )

I haven't contacted anyone in your family and I would appreciate it if you'd do the same.

You know how your department is I'm sure anything you are hearing is a product of internal gossip. ( it's coming from here friends not my department)

I'm not saying anything about you, XXX

I wouldn't do that to your career, and believe it would be a poor reflection of character on my behalf (character? Lol).

I don't have any animosity toward you but we're very different and it just didn't work out. Those are the facts and what someone would hear if they asked me what happened (lie)

If you hear otherwise you can know it was fabricated. There are other things I need to talk to you about but you haven't been responsive so I would be more than happy to talk to you about this (and everything else) whenever you want.

This is crazy....
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She is trying to manipulate you. She really does not want this to be exposed to her work or her mom. All the more reason to expose her.
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She is trying to manipulate you. She really does not want this to be exposed to her work or her mom. All the more reason to expose her.
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isn't it a concern to anyone that if i expose her and she gets fired then i would have to pay? is that not a real concern?

should i wait until after the papers have been signed? divorce is final?
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what type of job does she have?

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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I don't want to get into to much detail however if certain people found out she would for sure lose her job.
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isn't it a concern to anyone that if i expose her and she gets fired then i would have to pay? is that not a real concern?

should i wait until after the papers have been signed? divorce is final?
Have to pay what, exactly?
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Have to pay what, exactly?
alimony being that she wouldn't be working anymore?
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alimony being that she wouldn't be working anymore?
2 years married - and both on 2nd marriages?

I'm dead certain you don't have to worry about alimony - and the infidelity will seal that for certain, even in a no-fault state.
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alimony being that she wouldn't be working anymore?
Dude...your better get some legal counsel. Alimony after only 2 years? Highly unlikely.


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Dude...your better get some legal counsel. Alimony after only 2 years? Highly unlikely.
i know she wouldn't be entitled to it now. im saying if i were to expose the affair and she got fired would i be responsible then? I guess this a question for my lawyer
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2 years married - and both on 2nd marriages?

I'm dead certain you don't have to worry about alimony - and the infidelity will seal that for certain, even in a no-fault state.
im on my second, shes on her first

the only proof is text records and phone calls. not sure that would be enough to 'prove' anything
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I smell a codependent. Prove me wrong. You are making excuses to protect her. For what?
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im on my second, shes on her first

the only proof is text records and phone calls. not sure that would be enough to 'prove' anything
Have you spoken to posOMW?
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I smell a codependent. Prove me wrong. You are making excuses to protect her. For what?
cant prove you wrong...100% accurate. However in this instance I am truly looking out for myself. I have already outed to her mother. I am concerned about legally ramifications however by exposing to work.
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