Re: Wife Moved Out Yesterday.
Your story really brought tears to my eye’s because I feel a lot of what you feel. I too don’t want to believe that my husband is not in love with me anymore. One thing you said that your W said to you was that she wants you to be happy, to find someone that will love you back (or something to that sort). That’s the exact same thing my husband told me when we first separated. And I’m thinking…”no, I have the person I want”. So I understand how fustruating that feels, but sooner or later you will come to the acceptance stage.
I mean, you will realize that no matter how much you love a person, you can’t love enough for the both of you. And at the end of it all, if you give your heart and soul to a person then you deserve to get that back. And I too come from parents that have been together for a long time (26 years) and did go through their share of troubles. They almost got a divorce when I was young. My mom told me that she literally hated my Dad for a full year. But they made it and their still going strong. They are my heros. I feel sad b/c I feel like my son will be missing out on what I myself was blessed with (growing up with both parents, having my family together).
I too, like you, believe that marriage is about sticking it out and making it through hell and back with a person, because at the end when your old, you want to be able to look at that person with respect and love and say yes, look at what we went through but we’re still here, we didn’t give up. But you have to understand that not everyone feels and thinks the same way as you or I. You cant fight fate. There is a greater plan here. Maybe she is not the one that God has plans for you to spend the rest of your life with. Sometime’s we focus so much on our plans and our dreams for ourselves that we don’t take time to really give it all to God. Were here to serve his purpose, and I myself don’t believe that God intended marriage to be one person being in love and the other not loving them back. Hope this helps…